(Closed) NWR but question for those who had a baby during covid

posted 2 months ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I had my baby in January of 2021.  We allowed ZERO visits for the first two weeks, which I highly recommend so that you can focus on recovery and bonding as a new family.

After that we allowed grandparents only, with masks (there weren’t vaccines at the time but as soon as they became available, we required them) and no holding.  I just wasn’t comfortable with it.  Add on to that that you’re mama bear hormones will be raging so I didn’t want anyone near my baby, to be honest.  

We probably graduated to letting the grandparents hold the baby by 4-5 weeks (away from the face, masks, etc.) and I let my brother and sister-in-law meet the baby at about 8 weeks.  They held her with masks as well.  But even now we don’t go a lot of places indoors, have very few visitors, insist on masks, etc.  I figure you can’t unring the bell and it’s not worth it to take any risks.  She’s too small to be eligble for a vaccine and has a heart condition so we want to protect her.

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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@sweatergal007:  I had my baby in summer 2020 so right in the thick of it and before vaccinations. Grandparents kept themselves isolated so that they would be available to come meet the baby (at home – our hospital didn’t allow visitors) and help out. And I had a brutal delivery/recovery so my Mother-In-Law coming to stay with us for a week was a godsend. Close family friends isolated so that we could merge bubbles and they could keep our oldest while we were in the hospital (she hadn’t seen her friends in weeks so that was great for her). Other than that we didn’t allow anyone to hold him or be inside with him. We had a couple brief outdoor distanced viewings.

My best friend had a baby about 6 months later. When they were about 10 months and 4 months old we were finally vaccinated and decided to do an outdoor meetup. After awhile we both were just like “this sucks I want my best friend to be able to hold my baby”. We sanitized the crap out of ourselves, stayed outdoors, masked up, and took a few minutes to swap babies and snuggle our nephews. It was really emotional for us both – it’s hard to not be able to share your baby! 

Once adults were all vaccinated and he was getting antibodies through my breast milk we relaxed a little bit. He’s now 1.5 years old and at daycare so we see some select friends (mostly outside) because they are also cautious and fully vaccinated. I actually refused a work party and when asked why I was skipping I flat out said “because our office has anti-vaxxers and the indoor venue is tiny. I’m not being around that until my kids get their shots”. No shame. You want me to hang out with you get your damn shots. 

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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I had my LO in April 2020. We didn’t let anyone hold her until she had her two month vaccines, and even then, we required masks for anyone holding her. Our parents both isolated before seeing her and drove to visit her rather than flying.

Now that the vaccine environment has changed, we would not let LO be around anyone unvaccinated right now. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I had a baby last October. At the time we allowed only people who fully quarantined for two weeks (and had their other vaccines up to date ie flue, tdap etc) to see him, except outside, at a distance (my dad works in a hospital and couldn’t quarantine that long). Now we permit only fully vaccinated people (2x plus booster) who have taken a same-day rapid or pcr test to see him inside at our house. He goes inside nowhere but the doctors office, and we go inside nowhere that we don’t mask except family houses (and our family abide by the same standards.)

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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@sweatergal007:  you’re not even pregnant. This whole post is just borrowing trouble and feeding your anxiety. It’s completely pointless. No one has any idea what Covid will be like when and if you have a baby. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
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@sweatergal007:  I had my baby in May 2021, so I was fortunate to be fully vaccinated. We *only* allow vaccinated people around her. I have conspiracy theory far right parents so how they responded to our boundaries was…. very poorly. We fought about it my entire pregnancy and afterward until they finally decided to get vaccinated (I was SHOCKED that they did tbh, my mom is especially antivaxx). We also required TDAP for both sets of our parents and siblings since they were staying with us when they visited shortly after baby was born. We let vaccinated family and close friends hold her when they visit, but everyone has been great about canceling if they’re feeling even slightly under the weather. We don’t take her places where unvaccinated people could be (grocery store, indoor restaurants, etc) except the pediatrician. We likely will be more lenient once LO can be vaccinated.

The best advice I have for when you’re pregnant and after baby is born is to make sure you and your OH are 100% on the same page and consistent with your boundaries. There will inevitably be hurt feelings. I’ve been called many hurtful things over our boundaries, and it definitely hurt me, but protecting my daughter as well as I can is more important to me than mine or anyone else’s feelings.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

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@sweatergal007:  Yes, we required flu and TDAP shots for anyone wishing to visit.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I had my second baby in May. So I was pregnant and obv unvaccinated during the COVID surge we had a year ago, which was stressful. I work from home and DH was furloughed so we were able to be fairly locked down during that time. Once I was able to get vaccinated (at the start of my 3rd tri) we did relax some. Baby was fortunately born in late spring during that brief phase of beautiful covid optimism where cases were way down, CDC relaxed guidelines and everyone was feeling groovy lol. So that was nice ha.

After baby was born, we did allow a few close family members around but beyond that not too much unless it was an outdoor thing. Once baby hit 2 months and the risk of a fever wasnt so big, we relaxed a LOT, and even more so after DH & I got boosters. COVID is just not a big threat for young children so that informs our risk calculation a lot.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
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@sweatergal007:  No problem! I’m definitely still a work in progress on boundaries, which is probably why my parents resisted so strongly. They likely thought I would cave. Mom me doesn’t cave though! There’s something about protecting your LO even if you struggled to have boundaries for yourself. I’m sure you will be much stronger than you think!

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