(Closed) NWR: Controversial topic…is homosexuality inherited?

posted 8 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

The studies mentioned: I would be curious how they decided who was “gay” or “straight.” Was it self-reporting, or through brainscan tests? Maybe through the sort of test when they measure either eye dilation or erogenous blood flow when you look at pictures of either sex naked?  If I had a twin who was out with no repercussions I might be more likely to be open about being bi.

 

also @ PP who got really mad at her Fiance for joking about cutting out a boy playing with girls’ toys: THIS. I love your response!! A little boy (or even a man) can and probably will still end up being a well-adjusted and wonderful man even if he has a few feminine tendencies… And will sometimes even be a kinder, more empathetic soul for it. My partner comes across as a tough, rugged mountain man, but I know he has a soft , girly feminine side as well and I LOVE it.

Post # 78
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Busy bee

@peachacid:  I think your hubby is in need of remedial biology more than anything else. Bless his crazy heart.

I would keep pushing the conversation though. He seems to be having a lot of concrete ideas about how his offspring are going to turn out. What is his stance on pressure vs acceptance, and are you on the same page? I think a certain degree of pressure and expectations are a part of good parenting, but some people are more on the page of “you will like what I like, you will play the sport I enjoy, you will date my type of woman and you will attend my alma mater.” Before the kid’s even had a chance to pick a favorite color.

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@babeba:  Thank you! Fiance is a really lovely, open-minded, and loyal guy. He has a really wicked sense of humor and was just joking when he mentioned it – I saw it as an opportunity to see what he really thinks about the topic. He definitely learned his lesson (and he completely agrees with me that our boys can play with girl stuff and the girls can play with boy stuff).

Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@peachacid:  If he blames you for having a girl first, just point out that he’s the one who determines that. And if he blames you for anything else, tell him he’s an asshole and call it a day.

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

I don’t know anything about genetics/heredity etc.. Just felt like commenting that in DH’s family, there are quite a few homosexuals. His mom swears it’s hereditary, 2 of her 4 kids are gay. Could just be a coincidence? Or, maybe it just seems like genetics play a part beacuse families that are adjusted to and accepting of same sex couples are “safer” for someone to come out to? I don’t know, I don’t really think it matters. 

Post # 84
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Helper bee

Or “epigenetic” — I read an article that suggested it over a year ago but cannot dig that up. I do think there is more than choice at play and feel like I have seen a lot of articles to support that. 

I also read this recently: http://healthland.time.com/2012/12/13/new-insight-into-the-epigenetic-roots-of-homosexuality/ –> Which may be the best thing to point to since it seems that this is a pretty active research area/studies get dismissed quickly. 

Beyond that – I am just answering based on experience. My family does have gay members in different generations (all of whom are women) and I don’t think it is a choice on their part. Could be coincidental – could be a predisposition.

Post # 85
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Helper bee

PS – I am out of this fight from here on out. 

Post # 88
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

@LoggerHead91207:  

hopefully he also won’t mind if your boy likes to wear pretty sparkly things and your girls like to wear no-nonsense shirts with cars on them! 🙂 it’s not too common but believe me that it’s not going to be a sign of mental disease or that your kid will end up weird and psychotic… Unless everyone in their life makes a big fuss over it and tells them they’re shameful and wrong for being a boy who likes to wear pretty pink dresses, or a girl who REALLY does not!

 

/off soapbox! (:

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@babeba:  He would actually love if a potential daughter wore a shirt like that! He was obsessed with cars when he was a toddler. Not so sure abut the sparkly shirt for a boy, but he has made it very clear that he will love and accept our future kids no matter what. So I’m not worried (that conversation took place probably 4 or 5 years ago). Smile

I’m a bit sensitive about the topic because my younger sister was very much a tomboy growing up. She recently told me that our grandma (dad’s mom who we rarely, if ever, see) would make comments about that to her when she was still pretty young. It always made her feel uncomfortable and it pissed me off when she told me. Everyone is different. People don’t have to like it or understand or agree with it, but they can at least keep their trap shut and not make ridiculous comments, you know?

Post # 90
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@peachacid:  No, I’m sorry but that’s anot how it works and there is absolutely no scientific evidence to support your husband’s line of reasoning. Being gay is not a choice and sexual orientation is something we’re born with, but it’s not hereditary. 

Post # 91
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

@peachacid:  I remember reading a paper in my undergrad about sexual frequency and sperm selection which presented findings that x chromosome sperm are produced more quickly but y chromosome sperm have greater longevity. There will always be a mix in testes, but it suggested that men who ejaculate very frequently will have more X chromosome sperm than Y, and therefore have a higher chance of girls. i can’t remember if it was the paper or my prof who then suggested that if a couple ends up with girls and the male partner is upset about it, it’s perfectly fair to point out it’s probably his fault!

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