- 9 years ago
I need some advice. I hit it off w/ a girl at a networking group. She was looking for a new job and my area had an opening. She got it, and we started hanging out outside of work. She was even invited to our wedding.
Well, our friendship is rocky now for various reasons, but basically I’m not even sure she is stable. I’m just realizing we are very different, and I have distanced myself from her a lot but am still friendly, as we sit by each other at work, etc. (May be worth noting I work in male-dominated tech and am trying to avoid any work drama, and she has already cried in my office once, when I asked her not to hold off a personal conversation until after work hours and instead she walked into my office and shut my door and started crying and attacking me verbally!)
Anywho, we are also now having work related problems. If it was anyone else, I would’ve really gotten in their face by now about her poor performance affecting me or just telling her to quit asking me for help. Then, if things were this bad w/ anyone else, I’d have reported them to our manager by now, but I’m afraid of the drama! What do I do? I mostly just want her to quit asking me for help, but I am senior to her, so it’s kinda shaky. She’ll ask me for help on things that I personally documented and gave to her and then NOT listen to my advice…ugh..it’s really stressing me out, bc I know she is messing up the project that I worked so hard on.
How do I get her to back off?