Post # 1
Would we like each other? I mean, would we still be as civil and helpful on here as we are now? I know not everyone is going to like everyone else, I’m just sharing my random thought with you all for the moment.
It’s a fun and interesting thing to think about… I mean, internetland is different from the real world. For example, there are moderators in forums and chat sites, who will warn, flag or ban you if you get out of line. They serve as a backup conscience when your first one fails you and you decide not to backspace or edit.
There is no backspace key in reality. If you say something without thinking, there’s no way to go back and rephrase it until it’s perfect. Unfortunately, we have no edit link. We can always say “I’m sorry” or “I didn’t mean it like that” etc, but when you’re face to face with someone, it’s different (at least to me).
Also, even though we can detect traces of people’s personalities on here, it would also be substantially different in real life, because then you also get the physical appearance (which sometimes does affect interactions with others), voice tone and inflection, accents, facial expressions, etc. Throw in the personality spectrum, and it’s really something to think about.
Ok – I’m going to shut up now 😛
Post # 3
I like to think I am pretty much myself on here. I don’t say anything I wouldn’t say in real life just because I am behund a screen now. My humor is pretty dry though I think it might translate better in real life.
Post # 4
I think we’d be surprised at how much we like a certain person (meaning, I’m sure there are people we’d never think to strike up a conversation with in real life (for a multitude of reasons) (good & bad).
Post # 5
Well, everyone is really nice here but it’s such a huge community! So there are all different kinds of people on here and all different kinds of personalities. Overall I think I would get along with everyone just fine. However, as far as becoming “BFF” it’s hard to say. As an older, cynical bride (haha) I don’t know if I would really have that much in common with some of the younger ladies, like the ones who have only ever dated their Fiance, and are just sooo happy and in love, etc etc. (not that there’s anything wrong with that, but that’s just soo not me!)
Post # 7
you know, that reminds me of one of my friends. he was a computer science major, as was talking about something when all of the sudden he goes, “no, wait. i was wrong. delete that.” we looked at him like he was crazy. lol. that thought still cracks me up.
but it is an interesting thought. i think a good chunk of us would still get along. it’ll probably take some time to get used to actually seeing each other but it can work. i met a few people in real life that i had only known online and it went great. i think when you make that kind of friendly connection, it will translate.
Post # 8
I communicate with a few girls on here over e-mail and Gchat and so far so good! I’m really sarcastic in real life, but I try to keep that at a minimum on here. I don’t think it would translate well. I get along with most people in general, but there are plenty of people out there who don’t like me and vice versa. I’m sure in the Hive that would be no different. Luckily we’re all (for the most part) mature, intelligent, civil women. And I think we can all agree that most of us would get along better than we’d get along with girls from those “other” wedding boards 🙂
Post # 9
@EAQ: Me too! I’m sarcastic, cynical, dry sense of humor…you know, typical New Yorker ;o) I tone it down it bit on here though.
I definitely don’t think we would all necessarily be BFFs…i think people would split off into little groups ;o) I think you can tell just within general discussion who has similar viewpoints, attitudes, etc. I definitely see people on here where I’m thinking they could fit into my group of friends haha ;oP
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’m nicer here to people I fundamentally disagree with than I would be IRL. But I also wouldn’t associate with those people IRL (and I doubt they’d be interested in hanging with me), so it wouldn’t come up. 🙂
I’m also not very funny here… deadpan doesn’t work in this format. 😉 I’d probably get along *better* with most of the posters here if I met them off-line!
Post # 11
Well said hellohellohello. I’m not the girly-lovey-dovey-saccharine type. While all of my posts are 100% my personality and voice, I do find that I edit myself a lot so as not to offend anyone, I can be pretty sarcastic and that doesn’t come across well on boards.
I also think there are some ladies on here that are hysterical & make me laugh a lot. I think posting on boards can be tricky (like my sarcasm point) but a lot of times you can really hear the voice of someone and I think that’s when it’s at its best.
Edit: Whoops – I basically just made the same point as EAQ & hotchild. My bad.
Post # 12
I agree w/ the PP. it would be way different in real life. First… if someone annoys me on here I just ignore them and don’t respond. I couldn’t exactly stay mute when someone says something that I think is stupid in real life 🙂 Also– I think that if we all knew more about each other the inevitable would happen– people would gossip feelings would get hurt, etc.
But I guess just one on one with other people… it’d prob be fine 🙂
Post # 13
IRL I use some…colorful terms of endearment for my friends. I’m definitely not going to call anyone on here a bitch or a ho, even jokingly (as I would with my group of friends.)
Post # 14
I’ve met a bunch of Weddingbee folks in real life, and if it’s possible, I think that they are *even nicer* than they are on the boards. I really think we have one of the greatest groups in cyberspace, and though there surely would be the occasional personality issue, I think most people would be pleasantly surprised!
Post # 15
I do wonder this! I consider everyone on here like a type of friend – and I don’t have tons of female friends so sometimes I think to myself “would we be friends in person?” I sure hope so!
Post # 16
I think some people are just on different wavelengths. If we met in real life, we would probably get along fine, but some would gravitate more toward some than others. I wish I could meet more weddingbee people in real life!