Post # 1
Just wondering ladies.. Im all for womens rights and how far we have come and Im learning to be more independent and do things on my own without the help of a man (hubster is long distance right now).. I belive in equality in the workplace and pretty much anywhere
i still like when a man (husband or not) opens a door for me, give up his seat on public transportation (i by no means expect this but still think its nice) and stuff like that. I also think that masculine and feminie energies both have their places in a relationship.
Beacuse of the above i dont think i fit into a feminist mold.. but i do support women and their abilities and rights to do whatever they want..
maybe i can be a 1/2 feminist.. lol
Post # 3
i think there’s extremities to any lifestyle.
i agree with you, and am in the same boat. not sure what to actually call it though.
Post # 4
Feminism is simply wanting women to have equal rights to men.
…unfortunately most people hear the word “feminism” and immediately think of hard-core feminism with the man-hating and the bra burning..
There’s nothing wrong with liking men to be polite 😀
Post # 5
Being a feminist simply means that you think men and women are equals, should be treated equally, and should have equal opporunities in life. Forget all of the feminazi and man-hating feminist stuff that tries to make feminism look bad. Do I think it’s nice when Fiance opens the door for me or pulls out my chair? Yes. Does that mean I think men are stronger, better, or dominant and that’s how it should be? Absolutely not! I’m definitely a feminist and it makes me sad that the word has developed a bad reputation.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
I believe in equality of the sexes, so yes, I consider myself a feminist. I don’t care if someone opens a door for me, carries something for me, gives up a seat for me — I can open the door, carry the thing and stand on my feet just as well as a man can, and I don’t need a man to do those things for me just because he perceives me as a weaker being. We have complete equality in our relationship and I like that.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Kandiss16: Feminism is “a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women.”
If you support equal rights for women, you’re a feminist. Please don’t buy into the hype that feminists are “femi-Nazis” who hate men or don’t want them to act like gentlemen.
We can still have equal rights and have different roles than men. My fiance and I are both feminists – but he mows the lawn, opens the door for me, pulls the car around when it’s raining, etc. I do his laundry, help him remember where he put his keys, take care of the social organizing of our lives, etc.
Or as Rebecca West said: “I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat.”
Post # 10
Yes, I support equal rights for both genders. I do believe, however, that men and women are inherently different (brain chemistry, obvious physical differences) but that there is no better gender
Post # 11
@Kandiss16: i don’t think having a door opened for you is anti-feminist. i think that is a curteous thing for a person to do. chivarlry is not dead.
i hold open doors for the elderly (and others who are behind me), not because i think they can’t do it, but because i am being polite.
Post # 12
Feminism means equality. It also means choice. For instance, I like traditional male/female roles. I like the idea of one day being a stay-at-home mom. I know some people will think of that as being not feminist. But I believe that feminism means you get to choose what you want. I often feel that much of what the feminist movement did was make it so that instead of having to stay at home to care for the kids, women now have to work. Many women look down on Stay-At-Home Mom and I think that’s wrong. What feminism should mean is that men and women both have the choice to do what is best for them and their family – for instance, choosing to be a stay at home parent or working. I’m just using the working/SAHM as an example. But you get my drift.
Post # 13
@lolot: +100000 you said it better than I could have.
Post # 15
I’d like to *think* I am, because I’d like us to have equal rights…but I’ve been told on several occassions by “real” feminists that I’m in fact not due to the following:
-wearing ‘so much’ makeup
-wearing the occassional short dress
-having plastic surgery
-not attending rallies/protests
-calling women participating in catty behavior “catty women”
-caring about my appearance
I kid you not: I had a friend who attended a well-known feminist college get engraged with me participating in a pageant and tell me “you are a disgrace to your sex!!”
Post # 16
I think that women should be respected in the same way as men, but we should all realise that there are some jobs that women are better at and some jobs that men are better at. I am not saying that these are necessarily the same for each man and woman but just because you are unable to do something does not make you a “weaker” sex. There are plenty of things that I won’t do because I know my fiancé is better at them than me.
I expect and hope my fiancé to treat me with respect and listen to my opinion but I will also look to him, when we are married, to be the head of our household as that is what he is called to do in the Bible. I don’t take this to mean that I must be at his beck and call and bow down to him but rather that he will guide our relationship in the right direction. If I did not trust him in this way then I would not be marrying him.
So in conclusion, I am a “feminist” in the sense of wanting equal rights in work and social life, but I am traditional when it comes to marriage.