Post # 1
I’m not really a kids person. We’ll probably end up with them eventually, but definitely aren’t ready for them yet. I’m totally happy for our friends who are having kids of their own, but I’m not the friend who walks in and wants to hold the baby, you know?
Anyway, more and more of our friends are having babies, and they post lots of updates on facebook. I don’t mind the updates (although the ones about poo and puke and labor kind of gross me out), but sometimes I worry certain friends will be upset if I don’t comment about how cute their kid is, etc.
I end up “liking” photos and status updates out of guilt.
It’s definitely not all of our friends – some of them are very realistic about parenting and other people not being obsessed with their babies the way they themselves are bound to be, but there are a few…
Anyone able to relate?
Post # 3
HA, I do. And sometimes I see really ugly babies and then I gush over how cute they are. I’m bad.
Post # 4
@Statutory Grape:lol Im in the same club
Post # 5
TOTALLY! My Future Sister-In-Law is totally obsessed with her two girls (5 and like 6 months or so) and they are the end all be all of the world! Like she had a fit when she found out my first dress fitting is on the same day as her oldest birthday party (that I didn’t know about). It’s like hello, they are the center of your world (and that’s totally how it should be) but not mine. I completely understand being all about your children and your life completely changing when they come into the world, it’s a big deal and I get that – but labor and poo updates aren’t required 🙂
I don’t think it’s required to comment on their postings. I’m not even really sure if they’re really looking for comments or “likes” when they do that – maybe they’re just saying what’s going on.
I can totally relate to the feelings on both sides, but I personally am just not a kid person – but I totally admire those that are, cause kids hate me LOL 🙂
They’re your friends, I don’t think they expect you to make comments 🙂
Post # 6
I have more and more friends on FB having kids and like you I’m not too big on commenting on pics and updates. Little kids are adorable but I don’t see a need to comment on every single picture that gets posted. I think you’re ok; if your friends know in real life that you’re happy for them and their new family, what more is there to do?
Post # 7
Nope. Not at all. Most of our friends now keep blogs too since a lot of us are moving away from posting too much on FB due to privacy issues. I would make a comment more often on a blog that I keep up with.
I hate FB though, so maybe I am a little biased.
Post # 8
I still have lots of friends who aren’t married/pregnant yet, so I just delete people when they have kids (or get pregnant, if they’re really annoying about it). At the very least, their updates get “hidden” from my News Feed. Only people I speak with regularly or particularly enjoy their posts don’t get deleted – and in those cases, I very rarely ever comment on their kid-related photos and updates; I am more likely to comment on pictures of their pets.
But then again, I really dislike kids. (“Hate” actually might not be too strong of a word, here.) I’m not sure what will happen when my best friends start reproducing. I love my friends, but I will always think babies are disgusting, and older kids are not much better.
Post # 9
I almost never post comments on baby updates, and I have a kid of my own. Truth is, I’m just not a big baby person. My friend, whose child is four months older than mine, just handed her baby over to me one day, which I was not expecting, and I didn’t know what to do with him. I still wouldn’t if I went to visit. She doesn’t comment on mine either, and I don’t care. So no, I don’t feel obligated to comment.
And @ddw: I completely understand about the poo, pee, puke, and labor updates. I despise them, and they gross me out. I don’t understand why I should know these things. I never post ones like that. At most, I post pictures here and there (mostly for my mother), and make a status update when Yuuki does something new, which happen once every few weeks. I think it’s been over a month since my last baby status.
Post # 10
I have a lot of new mom’s and women who are about to give birth on mine. I love kids, but it’s getting to the point where I almost want to block their updates. If it’s a good one I will comment, but mostly I don’t because there are so many of them!
Post # 11
Eh, I don’t comment or “like” the posts/status updates/photos but I’ll look at them and if it comes up in conversation when I see that person next “Ooh, did you see that photo of Jane in the Halloween costume I sewed for her?!” I usually say “yes, it was lovely” and then swiftly change the subject. As much as I love my friends I’m not friends with them because of their kids. Although that being said I will acknowledge a photo I really like or a comment I think is really funny.
Post # 12
I do the opposite… I block their updates! :-X Don’t get me wrong, I love kids, but I just can’t have all that nonsense in my facebook feed all the time… it drives me nuuuuuuuts!
Post # 13
I have several friends who update their status constantly with new “updates”. One in particular. She is a Stay-At-Home Mom with 3 kids under the age of 3. On an average day, you can expect to see anywhere from 15-35 status updates:
“(Infant) is watching TV!””(Baby) just threw up her juice! EEEEWWWW!” “(Toddler) just used the potty! Two pees and a poop!”
It’s cool how parents are so proud, and I get that – I will be too. However I like to think, I’ll be more inclined to pick up the phone to tell my parents about baby’s latest habit or achievement than post it on the internet for hundreds of people to see.
Post # 14
MissBubbles- I had to block one of those too. I’m like, geez. Stay-At-Home Mom, go BE a mom and get off FACEBOOK! Better yet, since you aren’t parenting your child and wasting time on the internet, go get a job!
TOTALLY want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom one day, but NOT on FB 23hrs out of the day!
Post # 15
Haha, I guess it’s mostly the people who we don’t see as often because they live across the country, who only talk about their kid, ever (well, before it was the pregnancy updates) – some of them seem to have adopted the mindset of having “moved on” from our friendship because of the distance and difference in life stages, and it makes me sad to lose my friends, for whatever reason, because I’m actually pretty picky about who I’ll be friends with, haha. I feel like some of those friendships are only coming on their terms now though, which means all baby all the time, and it might just be time for me to let go. When the RSVP card for the wedding comes in with the “No” box checked and a note about what “first” they hope their kid will be experiencing around the time of our wedding, it’s just a little much, haha.
Post # 16
Nope. I don’t feel obligated to do that. I’m one of the last of my friends to have kids – I’d be on facebook 24/7 if I felt the need to respond to all of it.