(Closed) NWR Do you open eachother’s mail?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Do you open your SO's mail?

    We open eachother's all the time

    Never

    He opens mine but I wouldn't open his

    I open his but he wouldn't open mine

    Only on specifically allowed occassions

    Other

  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Honestly, he’s lazy, and if I didn’t open his mail, it’d never get opened (and then things would start to happen like his grandmother would call me upset that he didn’t respond to her letter). I voted that we open each other’s mail, although he doesn’t really open mine, but not because he would have any issue doing it (nor would I have any issue with him doing it), because he wouldn’t, and he’s done it before, but the guy is generally too lazy to open HIS OWN mail, let alone mine, so it’s rare it actually happens. 

    Post # 4
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    14492 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Dh is out of town alot, if I didn’t go throught the mail then the bills would not get paid.  We do leave things that appear to be personal letters or cards for eachother, unless he is out of town, but I always ask him first with those. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Gotta say, being a postal employee it is now allowed in our house. the first time he opened a piece of mail addressed to me I was not happy. Afterall, it is a felony! And just by my attitude he now knows not to open my mail. I get the mail anyway since I am the one with the key, but like FutureMrsMcK’s Fiance, he hardly opens his own mail unless I am standing right there. One week, he was waiting for a package and asked for the key, needless to say as soon as he got the package I took the key back, because not only did he not open his mail, but he didn’t even give me mine. So aggrivating!

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    no. hubby is happy for me to open his but i rarely do, usually only because he specifically tells me to but he never ever opens my mail. i have nothing to hide, i often open it right in front of him but i think its a very personal thing

    Post # 7
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    102 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    he doesn’t open mine because he doesn’t even open his own lol… normally i do that part, bills, cleaning type of thing. 

    Post # 8
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    2575 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Never, ever, ever, ever.

    Why would I open something not addressed to me? Hubs agrees with this also.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Legal bee speaking here: it’s a federal offense to open someone else’s mail.  That said, I ask permission first.  🙂  

    Post # 10
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    5103 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Nope. Not unless it has both of our names on it.

    I open mine, he opens his.

    Post # 11
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    5992 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    oh and another reason why i dont open hubbys mail – all the bills are in his name and there is no fun in that!   ignorance is bliss as they say 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Fi doesnt check the mail and when i tell him he has mail he doesnt open it anyways. All the bills are in his name and im in charge of paying them so if i dont open them i dont know who i have to pay what… But if he were to get a personal letter (He never has even his family addresses invites and everything to me lol) i would let him open it!

    Post # 14
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    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I open all the mail. I actually think its fun, and I pick it up every day (its at the end of the road.) He doesnt open mine because he knows he would forget to tell me what it was or where it is. lol

    Packages are a no touch zone. We do most our shopping online, and both of us think of it like Christmas! Okay, so last time it was a car part, but its still fun to open.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think it’s priavte – we don’t open each others mail but sometimes we do it by accident. It’s no biggie, we share everything and have nothing to hide.

    Post # 16
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    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i guess i don’t understand why it’s a big deal. obviously it’s a felony without permission, but I don’t see anything wrong with spouses giving each other blanket permission to open each other’s mail.

    aren’t they his bills too?

    at least that’s the way we’ve been doing things. my bills= his bills and vice versa, so why would I care if he opened them?

    i agree though with the pp who said that if my husband got what appeared to be a personal letter at home, I would probably leave the fun of it for him to experience.

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