(Closed) NWR Do you open eachother’s mail?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Do you open your SO's mail?

    We open eachother's all the time

    Never

    He opens mine but I wouldn't open his

    I open his but he wouldn't open mine

    Only on specifically allowed occassions

    Other

  • Post # 46
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    This was an issue about a month ago when I ordered something from Amazon and came home and found my husband had opened it.  He must have known he did something “wrong” because he felt a little guilty. lol  I don’t have anything to hide, but I feel mail is private and if it’s addressed to me personally, then he shouldn’t open it.  It wasn’t a huge issue but he agreed not to open any more of my mail.

    However, he is welcome to open ALL the bills:)

    Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Whomever checks the mail, opens the mail. If it’s something that looks like a card, gift, or letter we usually wait until we’re together to open it. We check each other’s email when necessary too. We don’t consider it snooping or anything.

    Post # 48
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Nope I don’t. This was a beef in my house growing up, my parents NEVER opened each others’ mail and so it is just kind of ingrained in me that mail is private. 

    Post # 49
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We usually just open each other’s mail.  One of us always seems to be doing something when the other grabs the mail so it is just easier to have whomever picked up the mail open it.  Our finances are combined so it doesn’t really bother me for him to open my bills.  Since we put our incomes together his bills are essentially my bills too since we both pay them.

    Post # 50
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Oh the only things we don’t really open for each other are cards. We open those sepearately unless it is addressed to us both.  When it is addressed to us both we tend to open it together.

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Usually if I don’t open it, nothing will get opened.  So! I open it.  Seriously, he has piles of mail that he’s never opened, with old DMV stuff, creditor bills, whatever.  It’s bad.  So I’ve pretty much taken it over.

    Post # 52
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    Bee Keeper

    Nope. We don’t go through each other’s email, phone calls, voicemails, etc. either.

    Post # 53
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Mr.ND isn’t very organized. He’ll set my mail aside so I can get it when I’m home, and I like that. Mail’s a little bit private to me. He will ask me to open his though if he’s gone or at work and wants to know right away what a statement or letter says, and I’ll ask him to open a package if I think I know what it is. So we do under certain circumstances, but I like to keep our things separate if we can.

    Post # 54
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I picked other.. Neither of us really cares if we open eachother’s mail, but i generally don’t open his because it’s usually his credit card statements or phone bill and i don’t find that interesting. If either of us got personal mail, the other wouldn’t open it, not out of privacy reasons, but just because it is so much fun to open it yourself. I’ve opened his mail before when it was something mildly interesting like a new credit card or a library card, but not something personal enough to be special to him.

    Post # 55
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Nope, unless its addressed to the both of us then I will. Otherwise if its just to him I leave it alone and tell him he has mail. Its up to him to pay his own credit card and open his own personal items. If it doesn’t then oh well 😛 But I make sure the normal day to day bills get paid.. and he doesn’t look at my mail.. His mom thinks its weird that I don’t.. because she opens everything at their house (she even opened my fiances mail when he lived at home). She thinks whatever comes into the house is free game and she likes to snoop.

    Post # 56
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Nope, the only time I’d ever open mail with his name on it is when it has both our names on it.

    Post # 57
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Yep! We open eachother’s mail. We have nothing to hide

    Post # 58
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I am in charge of the finaces in our marriage so I do open all the bills no matter whos name they are in because I will usually write the check and send it out on the same day. I usually don’t open personal mail, but if it’s cards I do. Except birthday ones!! We get cards from our families all the time for every holiday… right down to cinco de mayo! so months that aren’t around his birthday I do open. Otherwise packages are for who ever it’s adressed to to open and any other personl mail I don’t touch.

    Post # 59
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I don’t really open anything addressed to him unless it’s a bill in which I pay it. Otherwise I let him open his and I open mine. 

    Post # 60
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I open everything because my husband doesn’t ever check the mail!  I take care of the bills and everything also. DH would rather me handle all it, so me opening all of our mail doesn’t matter to him at all Smile

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