Post # 1
Yesterday my Fiance received a letter from our landlord, and I called my Fiance at work to see if it was ok if I opened it. He was surprised that I would even bother to call him, and told me I can open his mail anytime. We’ve been together 3 years and have lived together, and been engaged for 6 months, and I still don’t open any mail that has his name on it. I just feel really weird about opening his mail, even if it’s a bill we both pay on. Does anyone else have an issue with this? Is it ok for him to open your mail?
Post # 3
If I know it’s just junk mail, I open it, look at it, tell him it wasn’t important, and toss it out. If I don’t do it I know he will just leave it sitting out on the coffe table or the couch for days. If it’s a bill or other correspondence, I don’t open it. I put the envelope on his keyboard where he can’t ignore it.
Post # 4
Both of us are free to open any of each others mail but we tend to just open bills and such and leave any truely personal coorespondance until the individual to whom it is addressed can open it themselves.
Post # 5
We open eachothers mail, I’m not sure that theres any “rule” we go by. I’d say if it looks like personal correspondence (i.e. invites/thank yous) we tend to open eachothers mail because we assume its for the both of us.
Post # 6
It really depends. Bills, of course. Personal correspondence – neither of us would be secretive and not want the other to see what it is but I really love opening letters so I know Darling Husband wouldnt open something that was personally addressed to me.
Post # 7
I would have probaly done the same thing. I dont open anything that comes for Fiance in the mail. He doesnt have any secrets and has never asked me not to open his mail I just dont really feel comfortable doing that.
Post # 8
Most of the time I do not open his mail. If there is something in the pile that I think he needs to know about right away or if we are waiting for a check or something, I will call him and let him know and then he will tell me to open it or not. If he says “no”, its no biggie to me.
Post # 9
@PitBulLover: I am the same way about opening letters. Even cards that are addressed to both of us he keeps for me to open because he knows I enjoy opening them.
Post # 10
If I didn’t open his mail, it would sit unopened for weeks (months probably), so I stopped asking and just open and sit the bill / card / whatever on the table for him to see (if it’s in an envelope, it doesn’t get opened, even in plain view!).
Post # 10
Yup, I open all the mail. FH works out of town all the time, if I didn’t open the mail it might sit there for a month or so.