(Closed) NWR: Do you open his mail?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should you open his mail?
    Absolutely not! If it has his name, it's his mail to open : (11 votes)
    41 %
    Bills yes, personal correspondence no : (12 votes)
    44 %
    Yes, what's his is mine! we have no secrets : (1 votes)
    4 %
    We open each others mail all the time : (3 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    3613 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    If I know it’s just junk mail, I open it, look at it, tell him it wasn’t important, and toss it out. If I don’t do it I know he will just leave it sitting out on the coffe table or the couch for days. If it’s a bill or other correspondence, I don’t open it. I put the envelope on his keyboard where he can’t ignore it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Both of us are free to open any of each others mail but we tend to just open bills and such and leave any truely personal coorespondance until the individual to whom it is addressed can open it themselves.

    Post # 5
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    5797 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We open eachothers mail, I’m not sure that theres any “rule” we go by. I’d say if it looks like personal correspondence (i.e. invites/thank yous) we tend to open eachothers mail because we assume its for the both of us.

    Post # 6
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It really depends. Bills, of course. Personal correspondence – neither of us would be secretive and not want the other to see what it is but I really love opening letters so I know Darling Husband wouldnt open something that was personally addressed to me.

    Post # 7
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    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I would have probaly done the same thing.  I dont open anything that comes for Fiance in the mail.  He doesnt have any secrets and has never asked me not to open his mail I just dont really feel comfortable doing that.

    Post # 8
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    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Most of the time I do not open his mail. If there is something in the pile that I think he needs to know about right away or if we are waiting for a check or something, I will call him and let him know and then he will tell me to open it or not.  If he says “no”, its no biggie to me.

    Post # 9
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    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @PitBulLover: I am the same way about opening letters.  Even cards that are addressed to both of us he keeps for me to open because he knows I enjoy opening them.

    Post # 10
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    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If I didn’t open his mail, it would sit unopened for weeks (months probably), so I stopped asking and just open and sit the bill / card / whatever on the table for him to see (if it’s in an envelope, it doesn’t get opened, even in plain view!).

    Post # 10
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    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yup, I open all the mail. FH works out of town all the time, if I didn’t open the mail it might sit there for a month or so.

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