- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I posted about the voicemail my estranged father left me a few days ago. I’m still angry over the whole thing but I think this was the push I needed to finally confront him. As of this point I am only willing to communicate via email with him so I’m really trying to get all of my feelings across in one email.
I know the email is harsh but considering the circumstances, is it too harsh? He hasn’t been a father to me in more than 15 years and he’s never made things easy for my mom.
Honest opinions, please? I’ve been hovering over the send button on this email for days…
I received your voicemail last night and I just wanted to let you know how angry I was. Based on your tone and the wording of “problem with my mother” and “let you guys know”, I assumed that grandma had died which obviously upset me. Later when I found out that you were calling for a completely different reason, I was pretty livid. I don’t know if you were trying to trick me into contacting you, but I would appreciate it if you wouldn’t do that again.
I have a lot to say to you and I’m surprised that I’m actually getting the opportunity to get it all out. After you read what I have to say, if you would like to continue to communicate via email with me, I would be willing to do that.
I know what has been happening between you and my mother regarding the annuity and divorce papers. It’s obvious that my mother wants to be divorced so I am asking you this as your daughter, please sign the papers. This charade has gone on long enough and she deserves to be happy. If you love me, you’ll do the right thing.
Please stop contacting me and leaving messages saying that you’re trying to get in touch with my mother or my aunt. They both have answering machines. If you leave a message, they will get it. I do not want to be involved. I’m sorry that you’re having financial trouble and forgive me if this sounds insensitive, but you’re not going to find any kind of sympathy from us. My mother raised me as a single parent and she did an amazing job. She never received any kind of assistance or support. Instead, she worked her ass off to make sure that I always had everything I wanted and needed. If anyone deserves anything, it’s her.
I’m sure it’s no surprise that I have some resentment about my childhood but that’s not a conversation that I feel like having right now. I just want to say that I understand that alcoholism is a disease and I sincerely hope that you received help for it.
I have a good life and I hope that yours has improved since the last time I saw you. My fiancé and I have been together for 6 years and we’re getting married this October. We both have good jobs and we’re very happy.
I’m sorry if you felt that this email was harsh but these are things that I needed to say. I hope that you can respect my wishes and stop involving me in your financial issues. Like I said before, if you want to continue to communicate with me, I would be open to it. I hope Grandma and Aunt Peggy are well. Please give them my love.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.