(Closed) NWR Family Drama: Just Need to Vent

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
581 posts
Busy bee

Family business can sometimes be messy.  It sounds like your cousin’s sister doesn’t realize what is going on.  Can you trust her with the truth and ask her to help protect your grandma? 

Someone may want to call the police and ask how you should best handle the cousin situation.  If your grandma is afraid of him, a restraining order could be filed, but that is sometimes hard for family to do.  This is certainly not an easy situation.

I hope your grandmother gets better and that your cousin realizes what he has done to contribute to her health issues.

I’ll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.  Best wishes.

Post # 4
1317 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh gawd. She’s one of those people that overreact even when they don’t know the whole story! Sometimes I feel the world is filled with people like her! It’s super annoying but the best way to deal with it is to ignore it. Talking rationally with someone incapable of it is just a waste of time and all it will do is frustrate you to no end! Try to ignore it and let her get all bent out of shape by her lonesome! Just mark it off as another idiot that has no idea what she’s talking about.

Get well soon grandma! As for the thug cousin, call the cops the minute he does something funny. Tough love.

Post # 5
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2006

Your cousin is using her FB status about your Grandma’s illness to garner attention for herself.  It has very little to do with your Grandma I’m guessing.  By saying that Grandma has to go live with someone it makes her sound much worse off than what may actually be taking place.  Trying to reason with her is going to be like trying to reason in an adult manner with a 2 year old.

As for the “bad seed” . . . Consult someone, either a lawyer, family services, even the Police Department sometimes has officers that can explain legally your options without having to file charges.  It sounds like a restraining order and escort off the property may be in order. Possibly relocating Grandma’s good “stuff” to a public storage unit may be in order.

Post # 6
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with puppymom on the storage unit! Are your parents/grandma planning on selling her house? Because then the storage unit will serve a double purpose. Your cousin, frankly, doesn’t deserve to know about the storage unit’s location or who has the keys. 

Something legally needs to do done with your cousin. Your parents need to contact someone, be it a lawyer, police officer, whoever! 

Also, your reaction to your other cousin is warranted, given your cousin’s behavior toward your grandmother. Eventually your cousin will end up finding out where grandma is once she’s not in her house BUT the public (your cousin’s friends who may not even know about her grandma) don’t need to/deserve to/have the right to know about your grandma’s life situations. I believe that what you did was correct and in the best interest of your family. 

Post # 7
1774 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

That stinks.  My question is does the sister know what is going on?  If not, I can sort of see her point.  I doubt your grandma would ask her?  Anyway, prayers!

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