(Closed) NWR–Feeling overwhelmed by health and money issues

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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3223 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

jillbean1217:  I’m so sorry this has all happened! As someone who deals with chronic illness, I’m eternally grateful that my SO looks past my medical history to who I am, so I know your boyfriend must feel that way for you too. It must suck sometimes to be the caretaker, but I am glad there are times it works for you.

I think Horseradish has made some great suggestions for you to follow in terms of power of attorney as well as talking to a social worker. I would definitely follow up on that.  I also think you might find it helpful (if you are absolutely set on marriage, 100%) to look into whether a quick courthouse marriage would make it easier or more difficult for the two of you to get medical care. 

In some ways marriage vs. committed long term relationship is hard to pin down. Ideally marriage shouldn’t change people because the commitment is there beforehand. Marriage is a legal state that acknowledges that. Getting courthouse married now for a couple hundred bucks might make life easier. Anyone who says you can’t have a wedding later is being a pearl- clutching busybody.

Post # 17
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

LilRhodyGem:  Question: What are you doing on WeddingBee in the first place? It’s not like anyone in his right mind would want to spend his life with someone as unpleasant and bitter as you.

jillbean1217:  I have no real advice that hasn’t already been mentioned. I’m sorry you’re going through this. His epilepsy will only get worse, not better.

Post # 18
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

To expand on my previous post, it can only be managed–not gotten rid of. Even on medication, it will still be triggered, just perhaps not as often.

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