Post # 16
DanaWeddingGuest : THANK YOU FOR THIS! Sounds familiar and I feel like I need to frame the following phrase and hang it above my bed: “A great match comes along once or twice in a lifetime, not a few times a year.” To be honest, I’ve never been a serial dater so it’s not like I jump from one sweet talker to the next. However, I proper messed up with this one and I definitely have a problem with investing too much too soon…
MsBeer : oh wow… just wow… I’m sure you have completely moved on from that experince and I’m so happy to hear you are in a relationship with someone new now, but like… are you kidding me? I’m going to use your Tinder story as my inspiration, but I’m not quite ready just yet. I feel like I need to calm down and get a little bit more perspective because with the way I’m feeling right now, everyone with a penis is at risk of getting it chopped off…
Post # 17
itwillallworkout : ha! Oh yeah. Felt that feeling before. Give yourself some time then put yourself back out there. X
Post # 18
You do not need to be more careful. In fact, being able to fall in love again requires a willingness to be open and vulnerable with someone. This someone you were trying to do that with just happened to be a dick.
There are two teachers that I know of whose work I really appreciate on this subject- Alison Armstrong and Ken Page.
Alison has several interviews you can check out on youtube and she’s written a few books and teaches classes. I’ve heard really good things from people who have taken her courses. Ken Page has a book called Deeper Dating and it includes some excellent exercises to cultivate self awareness about how we are in relationship.
Post # 19
DanaWeddingGuest : love this.
Before I started dating my Fiance I dated a guy like the one in your post but for 8 MONTHS! he was the same as your guy. Laid it on thick like syrup, super gushy, full of promises and romance. Just as easily as he laid it on he was easy to let me go.
It’s not you, it’s HIM. Don’t change yourself because of this flake and don’t close off your trusting heart. Nothing you did or could have done would have made him love you and appreciate you. Some men just arent mature enough or have enough loyalty in them. One day you’ll meet the love of your life and he will take care of your heart and won’t treat you like this guy did.
Make sure you are the most important person in your life, treat yourself with dignity and respect and know that you deserve the best. He just isn’t worthy of your tears and sadness. His loss!
Post # 20
lifeisbeeutiful : Absolutely agree! Everyone should put your and my advice together and they will be fine!