- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I am so frustrated. Fiance will frequently turn to me and tell me he is not happy. He doesn’t know what he wants out of life, but what he currently has (a very good paying but a bit stressful job, a fully paid for apartment, me!, his health) is not enough. I am positive he suffers from depression but he refuses to go to the doctor or talk to a counselor.
Many of his friends have started families or moved away so he doesn’t see them often anymore and this really upsets him and he feels like he has no friends. Spending time with my friends doesn’t resolve this issue and he won’t make new friends. We’ve curtailed our going out activities due to the economy, but if I suggest going out he has no energy to go.
He was unhappy at his last job and we both thought this one would be better, but it’s actually turned out worse (been there a bit over a year now). He is unhappy about how much things cost and wants to move to the woods where life is cheaper (but of course, would have to get a job that pays much less). He saves a lot, so this is a perspective issue, not an actual we have money problems issue. He just at age 36 wants to quit work forever.
How do I cope with this? I’ve got my own stressful things going on, so I can’t handle his constant negative black-energy ball of unhappiness. Beyond planning a wedding all by myself with a fiance who only rejects suggestions and never makes any or researches anything, I’ve had a really rough time finding full-time employment and almost the past two years I’ve been on unemployment with a part-time job that pays expenses and doesn’t let me save – and is killing my career. I try to keep upbeat about it, but it’s hard with a Fiance that has been unhappy for about 2.5 years now.
He’s watching football right now and keeps sighing away into his computer, his typical “I’m depressed about life” sigh that drives me absolutely batty.