Post # 1
A good friend’s dad was in a bad car accident last month. He was in the hospital for a while and then went to rehab, and finally is coming home this week. He has a long road ahead of recovery ahead of him, and may very well never be able to work again.
Anyways, he couldn’t have flowers or anything at the hospital/rehab, so now that he is coming home I would like to send something. He’s not ready for visitors yet, but I will visit when he’s ready. My mom said I should send something practical since money is probably going to be tough for them for a while, but I was thinking flowers or an edible arrangement. She thinks a gift card for grocery or a restaurant is a better idea.
Anyone have better ideas?
Post # 3
I think dropping off a casserole that can be eaten right away or frozen for another day. They are not going to feel like cooking likely and will appreciate a good meal at their disposal.
Even better would be to drop off a couple of smaller casseroles to fill their freezer/fridge or drop one off each Sunday for a few weeks as they get used to life at home. That and people tend to reach out in the first week, but forget they are still struggling a month later and longer.
I like actual food better than a grocery gift card because it doesnt seem so charity-like. Plus then they do not have to spend the time and effort of shopping for a meal.
(EDIT: casserole ideas such lasagna, mexican lasasgna, enchiladas, baked ziti, chili or other soup, stuffed peppers, etc)
Post # 4
Are you a decent cook? If so, food. Preferably food that can be frozen and easily reheated.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Not flowers. Casseroles for the family is a great idea because they probably won’t have the time or energy to cook anything.
Post # 6
I think a gift card for a restaurant is a really good idea. Something that is close to their house and has a “to go” option, in case they prefer that. He will most likely appreciate any opportunity to get out of the house after awhile.
Post # 7
Agree with the casserole ideas!
Post # 8
Dinner is always appreciated, whether you cook or give them the $$ to go out.
Is he going to be cooped up at home for a while? Maybe a gift basket of stuff to keep him entertained? Crosswords, snacks, candy, a few bottles of water. You could put it together yourself and drop it off for a lot less than anyone would charge you to deliver it. Just pick up a basket or tub (something they could use afterwards, even, like a magazine holder), and go around Target picking up stuff that you’d like to munch on or play with if you were stuck in bed. You could even throw in smaller giftcards for Redbox or food places, depending how much you wanted to spend.
I love flowers, but guys seldom appreciate them as much. I know my husband would like a giftcard to BWW much more. His wife would probably appreciate a GC for a pedi if she’s going to have to take care of him. You could really go anywhere with it – and anything that shows you’re thinking of them will be appreciated!
Post # 9
Yes, a basket of goodies is always a good idea for the home stuck person. Casseroles and dinners are also great so the family doesn’t have to cook for the first few days of adjustments of him being home.
Post # 10
When my fiance’s brother passed away this summer, my colleagues sent us a basket of snack foods – chocolates, cookies, crackers and so on. It was really appreciated – we were all exhausted and craving comfort food, and it was nice to have quick snacks around for the times we didn’t feel like cooking a meal or ordering takeout. More than anything, though, it was the thoughtfulness that touched us. Though anything you send will be appreciated, I’m sure, I agree with the above posters – don’t send flowers, send food!
Post # 11
I forgot to mention in my OP that I live about 2 hours away from them. So although when I visit I can bring food, it’s not really an option right now since he isnt ready for visitors yet.
Post # 12
@Bostongrl25: How about ordering delivery for them from a local pizza place. Ask for a half restaurant tray of baked ziti to be dropped off.
Post # 13
I agree with the food option like other bees suggested; since you’re 2 hours away; what about gift cards to a local restaurant or call around to see if there is a dinner delivery service in their area that you can “gift” a week or X amount of dinners for them. Also some goodies for the caretakers would be much appreciated… if its his wife taking care of him maybe a massage gift certificate for her too.
Post # 14
Lately I’ve been sending gift baskets from organic food delivery companies… they’ve been going over really, really well. Most have an option to send the current week’s fruit/veggie box, plus some other things like cheese, snack foods, bread, etc. It helps the finances of the recipient, plus keeps them eating well when they’re stressed out!
The last one I sent included some salsa, chips, cheese, chocolate and a mix of fruit and veggies.
Post # 15
@MrsBot: +1 Bonus if they also deliver.
Post # 16
I agree with food.
And include paper/plastic plates and utensils! So they don’t have to wash dishes.