Post # 1
I was just thinking about a couple instances where I’ve been mistaken or most likely judged for being a girlfriend and/or a gold digger…how about you?
I was a community support worker for an Autistic teenager with developmental delays (he acted about 12 years younger than he was) for several years. When we met, he was 13, and of course just starting to go through a growth spurt. By the time he was 15, he was much taller than I was. One day I took him out to a holiday train thing that was happening, and we of course, were sitting together. One of the older men who worked there said something along the lines of “you better hold on tight to your girlfriend” to my client. He walked away before I had a chance to respond, but we both laughed. I am 10 years older than him, not to mention his support worker, so it was a little awkward haha.
I also was a companion for a senior (male.) I used to take him for lunch, to doctor’s appointments, and even to the liquor store when he was feeling like some beer. I can’t tell you how many times we got looks…This is me assuming others thought that I was his MUCH younger girlfriend…it makes me giggle.
And finally, my dad. My dad is a good looking dude. He looks younger than he is, other than the fact that his hair is salt and pepper. I’m sure that if he and I are out together, people assume I’m his younger girlfriend/wife. We also don’t really look alike, so it would be hard to see that he’s actually my dad (he’s white, and I’m half Chinese, but look more Asian than white!)
Let’s hear your stories!
Post # 2
The worst time was also with my dad. We went to a lounge one night for a drink together, and while waiting in line the man behind us casually asked if I was an escort, hired by my dad o.0 The man didn’t even look that embarrassed when we told him it we were father and daughter. That was sad.
Post # 3
Hahaha — this has happened with me and my dad a few times. He is 46, I am 23, but he doesn’t have much grey in his hair and I favor him in skin tone (he is from India, I have darker skin than my mom/brother who are light skinned). One time we were at a bar together and the bartender asked us for ID — both of our IDs — and my dad was like “WTF” considering he’s closer to 50 and the bartender was younger than him. When the bartender looked at my dad’s ID, he was shocked and exclaimed “WOW dude, lookin’ good!!” and gave me a suggestive look. I responded with “Uhh… he’s my dad” and the bartender was like “OHHHHH sorry”
This has also happened with my brother because we look so different (he has hazel eyes and light skin). It completely grosses both of us out and is mildly traumatizing no matter how many times it happens or where, lol
Post # 4
My brother and I have given up going places together because it happens every time…
Post # 5
I have the exact opposite… I was out with my boyfriend (at the time – many years ago) and a man in a restaurant asked if we were brother and sister.
Post # 6
I’ll go one better (or worse): my Fi and I went to the grocery store the other day and the checkout lady thought he was my SON. OK so yeah he is a little younger than me, and I was in my scruffy around-the-house clothes, but really? My son? Do I really look old enough to have a 30-year-old son?!
Post # 7
FatherTed: lol!! The nerve of some guys…And the fact that he wasn’t even embarassed to ask..wwow!!!!
sahanarajana: Aquaria: lol! I didn’t even think of a brother/sister situation!
weatherbug: Oh no!!! Actually my DH’s best friend was dating a girl who looked EXACTLY like his younger sister. It was kind of creepy actually. His sister and gf were really good friends too, so they were always asked if THEY were sisters…
Post # 8
Horseradish: LOL oh my goodness I laughed out loud…I can’t believe some people though…like even if you think it, JUST DON’T SAY IT!! It’s none of their business anyway!!!!!
My Brother-In-Law is actually married to a woman who is 23 years older, so I wonder what kind of looks they get….He’s 28 and she’s 51, so she definitely IS old enough to be his mom…especially since her son is 1 year younger than him…
Post # 9
My mom and her sister are close, and they both have short hair and don’t particularly look alike. They regularly go on little weekend trips together where they share a rental house and so on. People have assumed they are lesbians — to the point of asking them outright — on at least five separate occasions. I find this to be hilarious.
Post # 10
Yeah, I also had an ex who shared a lot of physical characteristics with me (tall, curly brown hair) and several people assumed we were brother/sister.
I will say that it can be hard from the other side! I work in genetics and so when I see patient, I often meet several family members. It only takes once of “Oh, you must be dad” and it’s the husband (or the other way around) to make you gun shy. I now walk in and ask who the patient is and then ask them who they brought with them. Lots give me odd looks (like it should be obvious) but it’s just safer!
Post # 11
When I was 22, I joined the Navy Nurse corps after college and my dad (who is very youthful looking) drove me to my duty station. We stopped over in Vegas on the way (I got stationed in California; we drove from KY). Everyone there thought we were married. Of course you see everything in Vegas so no one really batted an eye….LOL
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Post # 13
iarebridezilla: Oh I get that! My sister and I often go away on weekend trips and share a room, and we joke that people think we’re lesbians lol.
JenGirl: Totally!! Not really the same, but my mom is always mistaken for our sister, however she LOVES it lol. I agree, asking is just easier and saves more awkwardness.
Post # 14
Happened to me too! My response “Ew! No! We share a bed!”
Post # 15
i’ve been asked if i was my brother’s girlfriend. gross.
recently when my mom, my husband, and i were at church, the greeter thought my mom and my husband were a couple and i was their daugher, lol