Post # 1
My husband and I have been seriously thinking about getting a second dog, but I don’t know if we’ll ever actually do it because we feel weird about it. We’ve had our first dog for 5 years and simply can’t imagine having another dog; we worry that she will feel left out as our concerns will go towards the new puppy & I worry that I won’t love another dog as much as her.
We want to get a second dog because our current dog absolutely loves playing with other dogs & it would make her happy and less bored when we arn’t home. Also, my family dog of 15 years recently passed and it has really hurt us; so through this experience we agreed that when our first dog passes we would like to already have another dog there, and we think that will help lessen the painful blow vs. having no dog present.
Looking back, I wish we would of got another dog when our first dog was like 1 or 2, but now shes 5 and it makes the decision so much harder!
So are there any of you out there that have been in a similar situation? Anyone get a new pet years after you’ve had your “only child?” How was the transistion? Did you feel guilty towards your first pet?
P.S. I know this may seem a little dramatic because its about pets, LOL, but they are like children to us so we want to make sure we make the right decision 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
we just got a second pug, for some of the same reasons that you mentioned (giving our first pug a playmate). we’ve only had the new one for a few days, and we’re definitely in transition mode. i feel a bit more connected to the first, obviously, and the new one is so overstimulated by all the change (going from rural to urban setting) that she’s actually not paying much attention to our first one! it kinda makes me sad, but i have to remember that this is a huge adjustment and to give it time. but all dogs have different personalities, so your experience could be very different.
i don’t regret it though! not yet.
Post # 4
Oh Annie! Fiance and I feel the same way toward our dogs. They are our kids. I’m so sorry your family dog passed away. It’s so hard to lose a furbaby. The love they give forever leaves an impression on your heart.
My dog passed away in April 2008. It was devastating and the house was so quiet that 3 months later Fiance and I started looking again at the shelters and various adoption events. We went looking one Saturday morning and came home with not one but two dogs. Boris was a puppy (3 months) and Milo was 1 1/2 years. Still a pup.
I’m so glad they have each other as we are not home during the day either (thank god for dog walkers). I couldn’t imagine NOT having them both. And I think when, god forbid, something would happen to one of them, the other will be lost. And the great thing is they really get along great.
Now seeing that your baby is 5 years, it might, at first, be a ‘what are they doing’ kind of moment for your dog. Do you have to get a puppy? What about a dog that’s 1 or 2 years old? If you adopt, typically they make you bring your current dog to make sure everyone gets along.
Another thing you could do regardless if you get a puppy or a slightly older dog is to act just like you were to bring a baby home from the hospital. Take a towel to where the puppy or dog is and keep it there for a day or two to get the scent on it. Then bring it home for the your doggie to sniff.
I think we’ll always have two dogs. The companionship it provides for them is pricelss.
Post # 5
im so sorry about your loss. this past halloween, we just put down FI’s childhood dog… Fiance is an only child, so Pepper was really like a younger sister to him and a daughter to his parents! it was the saddest thing i’ve ever had to experience, and i’ve only known her for 3 years! it was the first time i’d ever seen Fiance break down and cry… :'(
we fortunately got our pups about a year apart. we definitely got our second for the same reasons… bailey was getting lonely and we wanted her to have a dog to play with… training buddy was REALLY easy though, because we had him jump on bailey’s schedule. even though the first few weeks, he couldnt sleep through the night; he caught on right away and was house trained in less than 3 months!
i think as long as you’re disciplined, you will be able to transition both dogs into a healthy, puppy love filled home!
good luck and post pics if you end up finding one!!
Post # 6
@AnnieAAA: I would advise getting a dog closer to your current dog’s age. A lot of adjustment problems are caused by the fact that people bring a kitten/puppy into a house where a “teenage” or older dog already lives. Inevitably the kitten/puppy gets (and needs!) more attention and they are WAY higher energy than the current dog/cat.
Plus, if you get a dog that is 2-5 years of age, you don’t have to housetrain it or anything because that’s typically already done! Plus you already know their personalities and such because they’re not crazy puppies.
You can find dogs in your area at http://www.petfinder.com and you can probably even bring your dog to meet a new dog you are interested in.
P.S. I hope I don’t sound preach-y but I work at a shelter so I’m a big advocate of adoptions!
Post # 7
@StephinPA: We had very similar thoughts :o)
Post # 8
@HOTCHILD – Rock on for working in a shelter! I’m also a HUGE advocate of adoptions.
Post # 9
Oh my gosh, we got a second dog over the summer, and they both love each other sooooo much!!! I was really worried at first about the first one being jealous, or sad that he wasn’t getting all the attention, but they are totally fine. And they keep each other company – they play all day, snuggle up together at night, follow each other around the house. One goes, the other has to go to. I honestly can’t imagine not having them both now!
And you are def. not dramatic! Our dogs are our kids too!!! I guess there is a chance you could end up getting a dog that doesn’t get along with the other, but I’m not sure what the chances are of that. I did read that you should get one that is either a different sex, size, or age than the first. Don’t know how true that is, but it said that if you get another one that is the same in all those areas, there is more of a chance they won’t get along. Ours are both boys and around the same age, but our first dog is much much bigger!
Here are our boys snuggled up in bed!
ETA – Both of ours were adopted from the humane society, and the second one was a “foster failure” LOL (we should’ve known better!). Had to steal that term from someone else who used it on here the other day!
Post # 10
We did! It was when I lived with my parents though, i was young! I got “my” dog when I was in the 5th grade (she is our family dog really 🙂 ) and when I was a sophmore in high school, we got another dog. He was left by a homeless guy at my dad’s work, so my dad brought him home. The transition was a little hard. My dog felt really left out and like she had to fight for attention. She went through a phase of being naughty, and doing things she normally wouldn’t do. She didn’t like the new puppy either (but she really isn’t a social dog to start with!). I made sure that I gave her extra love and attention though. And I would take just her to town with me and my dad would keep the other dog at home and spoil him while we were gone, therefore they both got spoiled but thought that they were the special ones! It got a lot better though, and pretty quickly. Now, you can’t get them to leave each other alone! They love each other and are always by each others sides. Its really cute. I think it has helped keep our first dog younger too. It ends up working out, you just have to make sure to be able to give both dogs lots of love. Maybe some days you take one dog and your husband takes the other. Then they feel like they are special, and they get one on one time!
Post # 11
We just got a 2nd dog in Sept!! A quick backrground: I adopted Romeo (came with the name) an oversized yorkie from a rescue when he was 5yrs old about 3 yrs ago (2 wks before I met FI!) and lavished attention on him! We went EVERYWHERE with us, a perfect little family.
This past summer, he spent a month with my mom while we were traveling and had such a blast hanging out with her dog, Fiance finally caved to my begging for a second poochie to keep Romeo company (and because, if it were up to me, I’d have a dozen dogs). I knew I wanted a 2nd dog that was a simalar size to Romie but a little younger (he’s almost 8 now!) to keep him active.
We found Jules, a 3 yr old silky rescued from a hoarder, and fell in love with her instantly! I’ll be honest, it’s been a lot slower process than I expected getting Romeo used to another dog at home. He still gets REALLY pushy and selfish when I pay attention to Jules, but I’m hoping with time it’ll simmer down. They get along fine, and Jules ADORES trying to play with Romeo but it’s definitely working out as a better arrangement for her than for Romie. Part of it is probably that being older, Romeo doesn’t have the same playful energy Jules does. When they “play” it tends to be Romeo laying on his back swatting at her while Jules runs circles around and jumps on him. Still super cute=)
My advice would be, if you do decide to get a second dog, take your current 1 with you and let her be a part of the decision process!!
Post # 12
OMG – @HONEYBUN – Too flippin’ cute. Our two do the same things. They always snuggle with each other. I had to post a pic because I can’t resist them.
Post # 13
We were worried about the same thing with our first pug. He was set in his ways and we were worried about him not wanting to be bothered by a puppy or another dog. But, one thing you have to remember, dogs are pack animals. From everything I’ve read and from what my vet has told me, a dog will tend to be happier with another dog around, especially if he already likes other dogs. We got a little girl with him (so he would be less territorial around her) and they are inseparable now. You can’t be there 24/7 and I’m sure he will be happy with the companion!
Also, I agree with hotchildinthecity, finding one closer in age might be best if you are worried about him being 5 years old. Petfinder.com is a great place to start or your local shelter. I know our shelter here will let you bring your dog in to meet with the other dogs, to make sure there are no conflicts before you bring the new dog home.
Post # 14
@steph: eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee soooooo cute!!!! Oh my gosh, there is nothing better than when the dogs snuggle with each other!!!! Except maybe when they snuggle with us!
Post # 16
Awwww those pics of the two dogs together are sooo sweet & really makes me want to get a second doggie!
Thanks for all the advice ladies, the hubs & I will be talking it all over. Agggg its just so hard! I hate being on the fence! 🙂