(Closed) NWR – Getting invited out last…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

ohmygosh, i’m totally the same way. i feel embarrassed if i know that i’ve been invited as an after thought and usually have a hard time going.

Post # 4
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You’re being too sensitive. Sometimes people just forget, it happens. Be happy you get invited at all. It shows people want you there and not receiving an invite was just a mistake.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I hate FB invites. I don’t understand how you could see it but you weren’t invited though, I’ve never noticed anything like that. If you’re right about getting an after the fact invite, I would decline honestly. It’s one thing if you didn’t even know you were an afterthought, but since it was public and obvious, I wouldn’t want to be in that position.

Post # 7
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think you’re being sensitive.

I totally agree with @moderndaisy

Post # 9
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Ryansgirl: ooooh! i HATE that! kind of like when people don’t want to make plans with you until they check to make sure nothing more fun is going on first. i have a friend who always used to do this to me. key words, used to.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I realized my first response sounded rude. I meant it in the sense that you shouldn’t let things like this stop you from being with your friends. People make mistakes when creating an invite list. The fact that they remember and still wanted to invite you should say something. If they didn’t want to invite you they wouldn’t right? Maybe say something to a friend like “are you sure im invited? i wasn’t on the original list and i felt like you didn’t want me there.” this would give your friend a chance to be like ohmygodI’msosorry! and maybe think about it next time to make sure no one gets overlooked.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

I used to always be on the outside of my circle of friends and honestly it hurt. What changed was realizing that I was always waiting for them to make plans and then invite me, I never really made the extra effort to make connections with them (and then of course I always used the excuse on myself that they were the plan-makers not me). Not saying that this is what you are doing, but for me acting like a secondary friend got me a secondary invite to things.

I also get what JrzyGurl is saying, you also need to be able to let go and have fun. You are not being sensitive, but it really is just going to fustrate more if you don’t forgive them and go to these events. And chances are, the more you go out and spend time with them, the more you get invited.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree that if you hang and spend more time with people they are more likely to remember to invite you right away

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