Post # 1
It’s SO’s mum’s birthday in a few weeks and I was asking what he thought we (he) should give. I don’t know if/when we’ll pool finances but currently they’re separate so he sets the budget.
My family have always been pretty frugal at gift giving I guess. Much more emphasis on “it’s the thought that counts” whereas his is a lot more generous.
This time around he’s spending 3 times what I would usually spend on a gift for my mum and he did the same at christmas. I know my mum would feel embarrassed if I spent that sort of money on her partly because I (personally) don’t have much money.
How about you? Do you spend more or less on gifts for others than SO/FI/DH? (to make this simple lets just keep it to family) Any reason why?
(Hope the poll makes sense)
Post # 3
Well we usually spend similar amounts for our families, but if one of us wanted to spend more then that person would chip in more. For example let’s say we normally chip in $30 each for each mom’s birthday to get them each a $60 present, but SO wants to spend $80 on her this year, then he would spend $50 and I would spend $30 like I normally would. Same thing if I want to spend more on my mom’s gift. Hope that makes sense!!
Post # 4
We usually spend about similar, bit I have more people in my family to buy for than he does.
Post # 5
We are sort of opposite to you. His family has always done very modest gift exchanges (one gift per person from each person at Christmas; less expensive items; splitting the cost of gifts between people) whereas my family has always overdone things. My family spends a lot more on gifts and that’s just how things will always be! Now that we give gifts from “us” I just make sure I’m keeping up with traditions for the person we’re giving to. We tend to give more to my family because they give more to us and we want to do it; we give less to his family because they would feel awkward if we showered them with presents.
Post # 6
I voted that I always spend more than my husband, just because I think I’m a little bit more into gift giving than him. We’ll see what happens in a few months when my birthday rolls around but I definitley have spent more money on gifts since we’ve been together than he has.
Post # 7
We’re the opposite. His family is normally rather light when it comes to gift giving while my family goes totally overboard. Christmas’ on my side have always been HUGE. Darling Husband and I have been together for 7 years and he’s still stunned when he sees the loot that my relatives give him. It’s not even compatible to what we see from his side. Not that his family is cheap or anything (well, some are), they’re just not used to showering each other with gifts to the extent that my family is. I know it bothers my Mother-In-Law when she hears about the things that my family gets Darling Husband but that’s her own issue. They’re not going to be less generous because it irks my Mother-In-Law.
When it comes to our gift giving, we try to make things as even as possible but since I do all of the shopping, I tend to spend a bit more on my family. It’s awkward when we buy his family members lavish gifts and we get a sweater or sheets in return. We don’t mind since it really is the thought that counts but I know that it’s weird for them.
Post # 8
We are also the opposite, his family always is very frugal with gifts. they also give practicle gifts such as clothing, school supplies, etc. I think its because they have 5 children and only 1 income so they are on a tighter budget.
In my family we don’t go “overbaord” but always give gifts that are something the person wants but wouldn’t buy it for themselves.
I LOVE giving gifts, especially to my SO, so I tend to go overboard, especially with him.