(Closed) NWR- Guests staying with us…Would this be rude?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Is it rude to ask her to get an Uber under these circumstances?
    Yes : (30 votes)
    23 %
    No : (74 votes)
    58 %
    Not necessarily rude, but you should drive her anyways : (24 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 76
    Member
    3025 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    renierose :  What you have to lose is reputation for posting with reason which may not be important to you but, if you expect to be taken seriously in any form, then it should. Maybe that doesn’t bother you and that’s fine…I really don’t quite care but, as you can see, no one is going to stand idle while you label someone mentally impaired or try to bring their social status into the mix. I have no problem with your opinion on always picking someone up or dropping off. I have a problem with you resorting to insults by questioning people’s lives and mental status as if that qualifies them in some way posting. 

    If you cannot see the error in that then there’s really nothing more to say. Your response to me just furthermore shows your attitude that I’m trying to point out. My real life issues or other poster’s life issues aren’t your concern. Your concern is debating your opinion on transportation vs someone else’s without resorting to a who has the most friends or is here because they have no real life.

    You’re on here responding to me because you want to. Otherwise, regardless of 2:30 or breastfeeding, you could be watching a movie, googling otters because they’re badass, or reading a book. 

     

    Also, sorry OP for further derailing this. Since your friend’s trip is over and with the state of things, you may find it best to just go ahead and close this topic out. 

    Post # 77
    Member
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    soymilk :  actually, I can’t read a book because I don’t want to turn the lights on.  I’d like the baby to get some sleep.  I typing on my iPhone and that doesn’t disturb the baby.

    Again, I think it’s sad that someone can have a reputation from an on-line persona.  I have a reputation in real life, both in my personal and in my professional career.  Even there, I have an attitude that people can take it or leave it.  I’m going to be even more frank on an anonymous website.

    I appreciate your advice, but I would be more worried about threatening someone on-line.   Saying anything along the lines of you have something to lose can be interpreted as a threat.  That could be taken very seriously, indeed.  

    Post # 78
    Member
    3025 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    renierose : 

    A computer/phone screen is light. You could read an article or Facebook if we really want to even go there…I mean, come on, how many different ways do we have to go with this?

    Any way you choose to interact with someone online or in person gives you a reputation with how you interact with others. Trying to not take ownership of that is your own agenda just as trying to find issues with me is. If it’s take it or leave it then you wouldn’t keep responding to others or try to find ways of lifting your opinion through petty tactics. If you wanted your opinion to stand on it’s own merit then you would have used logical reasoning that related to the topic. What you did was use baiting and gaslighting. Just as now, with the threat accusations and tone, you’re doing the same. You can’t find any logical way to explain your prior actions or justify them so therefore it has to be deflected for a matter of someone personally threatening you? Okay…right. Advising someone to quit something to not risk losing something is not a threat in majority of scenarios but I’m sure it suits you to think so.

    You have a good night/morning now.

    Post # 79
    Member
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    soymilk :  gas lighting?  Girl, you have no idea what you are talking about.  I hope that my posts are the closest you ever come to being the victim of gas lighting.  

    Also, I am giving you good legal advice.  Never, ever, say to anyone that he has something to lose in writing.  I am certainly not going to pursue it, but you can’t go around using language like that nowadays.

    Post # 81
    Member
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    soymilk :  wow, thanks for the extensive research Ms. Google, Esq.  

    Look, you should never tell someone that they have something to lose in writing.  Those are threatening words and it is a threat.  You told me to get off before I lose something.  That’s why I asked you to explain what I had to lose, because it didn’t make sense to me.  I wasn’t sure if you were threatening me or not.

    What I said may have been hurtful, but it wasn’t threatening.  There is a difference.  Please just be careful about the language you use.  It could get you into a lot of trouble and not the “people don’t like me on weddingbee ” kind.  

    Post # 82
    Member
    11519 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    This thread has gone off track. I’m going to close now for review.

    The topic ‘NWR- Guests staying with us…Would this be rude?’ is closed to new replies.

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