chelseacg : It made me reflect on high school a bit and made me very thankful that my parents took something seriously if I considered it serious, and made sure that I knew that they were always there to listen. There were still plenty of things that happened growing up that my parents never heard about, but I was a lot more open with my parents than most of my friends, and I felt really lucky that my parents made it very clear that they would always be there for me, despite being busy professionals. I think that made a huge difference in my life.
While watching the series I kept thinking that if Hannah’s parents (or any other character) had been more attentive to her needs, they could have gotten her the help that she needed. Clearly reaching out to someone who may be having a tough time is the moral of the story. And that people can be going through a really tough time, even when it seems like they have it all. It was devastating to see how Hannah fell through the cracks.
hikingbride : Yeah, the series definitely had me thinking about how I would raise my children and what I would imitate from how my parents raised me, and what I might change. My SO didn’t watch it with me (I went through it really quickly while he was out of town), and he doesn’t seem interested enough to watch it on his own, but I’ve initiated conversations about how we would raise our own kids as a result. Of course, we’ve already had some of those conversations, but not about the high school years specifically.
amanda1988 : I agree, I don’t think that this show was meant to go past season 1. I haven’t read the book either, but did read in a review of the show that in the book, Clay reaches out to Skye because she shows signs of potentially considering suicide, and didn’t particularly like that in the series they designed it so that Alex fell through the cracks. Not that I’m saying that Skye wasn’t worth reaching out to, but I could see that Alex was showing certain signs as I was watching the show, and I was disappointed that none of the characters on the show seemed to notice (even though I realized that this was the hook for the second season as well).
megrays : I definitely don’t think that the show was made for people who are struggling with mental health issues or considering suicide. I agree that the whole premise behind the tapes was unrealistic. However, what I got out of the show was that Hannah committed suicide out of great pain and an inability to see her life get better down the line. It seems like she tried a lot of different things that she thought might help her situation (such as reaching out to different people at school and even the counselor), but it didn’t seem to work out in the way that she wanted and after she was raped, it got to a point where she could no longer see any light at the end of the tunnel. I imagine that that is how a lot of people who commit suicide feel. I didn’t think that she committed suicide out of revenge, but I can see how some may think that there was an element of revenge in leaving the tapes, but that unrealistic premise is the basis of this work of fiction, so I’m not sure what to say about that.
Most of what bothered me about the show was the secondary characters’ behavior–really, you want to cover up a sexual assault because you’re afraid that someone’s going to find out that you did some minor thing that wasn’t a nice thing to do but certainly isn’t criminal (i.e. stealing compliment notes or choosing not to be someone’s friend)? Totally unrealistic. That part of the plotline underestimates the moral compass of teenagers and takes away from the series.