- 7 years ago
being kicked repeatedly by a toddler?
This has happened to me twice this week, once in a diner, and just now at a coffee shop. Both times the kid, about 2 years old (give or take 6 months), was sitting beside me, and their mother is on their other side.
I understand that parents can’t control their child’s every movement, and these mothers were definitely involved with their children and paying attention to them (not being neglectful), but as the innocent bystander who is getting snowy/salty mud smeared all over my coat by little shoes, what can I do?
Both times I have moved my chair away, but can only move so far without snuggling up to the guy on the other side of me (who I also don’t know, and unfortunately that didn’t solve the problem). Both times there wasn’t really another seat to move to, or I would have just gotten up and moved, giving mother and child more space to wiggle.
Is there a polite way to handle this situation?
Similarly, a few weeks ago, I had a pre-teen bouncing behind me in line (with her aunt), who stepped on me. I moved forward/to the side four times until I was actually out of the line, and finally said, “excuse me, please be careful” to the kid (probably 10-12 years old), as politely as I was able, at which point the aunt went off about how rude people are. That was an isolated incident though, and mostly kids that age seem to know better.
Little ones though, I know aren’t old enough to know better, but after getting chewed out by the Aunt, I’m very hesitant to say anything to the two mothers this week – but I also can’t help my growing annoyance at being kicked (not maliciously) for twenty minutes, or the fact that I had to get my new wool coat dry cleaned because of the one kid’s shoes.
PS – please, no anti-kid sentiments. I understand that toddler age is tough, and am not upset at the parents – I just really want to know how to handle the situation politely but still effectively!