(Closed) NWR-Help, this woman is trying to get me fired

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why don’t you talk to your boss about it, and see what he says?

Post # 5
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Oy. That sucks.

First, start documenting EVERYTHING. Next, check to see if your employee manual (if you have one) has a protocol for things like this (i.e: if you have an issue with someone, talk to them directly before going further). Next, talk to HR about this, or talk to her supervisor. She’s creating a hostile work environment and it needs to stop.

Post # 6
2867 posts
Sugar bee

I’d start clearly assigning her tasks IN FRONT OF your boss and blind carbon copy him and his boss on your emails.  Very effective.

Post # 8
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, maybe talk to your boss and start out by saying that you are concerned that you are not finding out about the dinners, seminars, etc. in a timely manner and see if that opens up the conversation with your boss. It is tough though.  You risk coming off badly if you go in there and start off by complaining.  How long has this woman been with the company? Does it seem like she is well liked? Maybe everyone thinks she is a pain.  If you are her superior I think three mos. is enough time for you to be able to raise a concern to your boss if you feel like she is hindering your ability to do your job.

EDIT: okay, just saw that your boss likes her.  I second what PPs said. DOcument everything and BCC the boss.  If problems continue I would still suggest having a conversation with your boss though.

Post # 10
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I cannot agree with @MissHelen more!  DOCUMENT every little tidbit.  I had an incident at a former employer and documented every incident with a date and a time.  I’m very glad I did because that got person canned. 

Post # 11
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Heh – I’d bring a style guide to work and when she says nonsense like “a sentence can only have 23 words” pick it up and start thumbing through it and then say something like “Huh – this MLA/Chicago/AP guide says nothing about sentence length.” I feel your pain on that, though – I was told that I couldn’t say “XYZ company’s policy is blah blah blah” because “a company can’t own something.” Really? So….who owns the building we’re standing in, then? (Fellow English major here).

She reports to you and she’s behaving like this?? So where do these proposals, dinners, etc come from? Maybe find that out and then direct those people to send their communications to you.

Also, if you hear her talking about you, walk over and say “did I hear my name?” That way she’ll know that you know she’s talking about you.

I’m sorry though, sounds like an awful situation.

Post # 12
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Make sure most (if not all) communication with her is in an email. My husband worked with a whack job and it came in so handy that he forced written communication on the guy (who has since been fired).

I would just directly CC your boss instead of bcc on things you think he should be aware of. It will come across as more of a “keeping you in the loop/FYI” than “look at what this woman is doing to me!” Especially since he’s a guy…unfortunately he most likely won’t be impressed by what could be dismissed as chick in-fighting.


Post # 13
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with what other pp have said – all email communication if possible or when you do have a verbal conversation send her an email cc or bcc your boss and be like to follow up on our verbal conversation…or to sum up our conversation…type thing. 

As a previous posted stated I’m a little confused if she’s supposed to be reporting to you, then why are things sent to her and not you?  Is there perhaps a communication break down between her and others in the office who think she’s your boss?

Good Luck!

Post # 15
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would also like to add that another way to make sure that you know about meetings and the like would be to send an e-mail to your group/company re-introducing yourself, explaining what your job role is, and who your direct reports are (therefore making it be known that this woman reports to you), asking that you be notified directly of any meetings, dinners, etc. so that you can better plan the workload of yourself and your direct reports.

Also, request that your team member share her calendar with you so that you will know how her time is being used.

Dinners, seminars, and proposals should be coming directly to you. There is no reason that she should be assigning you work. If the e-mail and the calendar sharing don’t fix the problem, you may need to schedule a “come to Jesus” meeting with this employee to let her know her behavior is unacceptable. Unfortunately, I have found that it’s sometimes harder to work with women than men. I have found that the direct approach usually works though.

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