- 5 years ago
Okay, so, I don’t live with my boyfriend, and he lives in a shared house. One of his housemates (lets call him Tim) is causing him a lot of trouble. He has started taking his food, small things, like onions out of a packet, some cerial, bread, sausages etc. You get the picture right? This guy does buy his own food as well.
This would be minor, I know, but my bf has mentioned it to him and he doesn’t listen. Tim also has a habit of tidying things away, to the extent of putting things in his room or kitchen cupboards if he doesn’t know where to put them/who’s they are, and even throwing away other peoples belongings. He threw away my boyfriends suit. He did pay for it, but it’s still the attitude. He also took herbs, that I had bought and put in my bf’s cupboard, and put them out for general use, I took them back and it happened again until I hid them.
My boyfriend has talked to him, and he acts as though he is totally in the right. If anyone moves anything he puts it right back where it was even if it makes no sense for it to be there.
The second any conversation like this starts Tim instantly gets angry, even if the conversation doesn’t start as agressive. Making him pretty much impossible to talk to about these things, even though it has been brought up several times.
I spoke to one of the other housemates, and she said she’d noticed some of her things going missing.
I don’t think this guy is stealing possesions, just food, I don’t think he goes in anyones room or anything, just “if it’s out, it might get binned/taken”.
Any idea bees? We’re at a loss of what to do, and my boyfriend really doesn’t want to start an argument with Tim as he doesn’t think this will help, but he’s getting so frustrated.