Post # 17
I’ll preface this by saying I don’t have kids.
But I think the most important thing about discipline is follow through. If you tell your kids that if they don’t stop that I’ll _____. Then you better do that! Kids are smart and figure it out very quickly when you don’t follow through.
Also immediate consequences. You don’t tell your kid if you don’t stop screaming you won’t get toys for christmas. Because A) you won’t folllow through with that and B) That isn’t an immediate consequence. Even if you did follow through they wouldn’t remember what it was for and the lesson wouldn’t be learnt.
Post # 18
By far the best parenting book I’ve ever read is How to Talk so Kids will Listen And Listen so Kids Will Talk. I read it when my kids were babies and loved every single page. It’s how I parent and I think my kids are turning out pretty good without typical punishments.
Post # 19
I have a two year old. She has slowly started pushing buttons and throwing a few mild tantrums. honestly, she’s a great kid.. so far and what works for us is, well, what works for us. Darling Husband and I are a united front when it comes to discipline. If I tell her no to something, Darling Husband tells her no to the same thing. If she’s throwing a tantrum I give her two warnings and then possibly a mild swat on the butt and we leave the situation. Be it at the grocery store with a cart full of food or a play date at a friend’s house. I take her out of the situation and give her some time to calm down. Ironically the statement “dry it up” works really well for her, she knows when she dries up and quits her tantrum I or Darling Husband give her a big hug and kiss and maybe a tickle. 🙂 She is a very loving and sweet child and does not like being in trouble or us being upset with her. I make a simple statement about what she did wrong and that is not proper behavior. She’s two, I don’t go into this elaborate detail about what she did wrong and why that behavior is wrong. She is simply told no, that’s not how we act. I am her parent, it is my job to set proper boundaries and at her age she does not need and cannot understand complex statements. Mommy said no and that’s final. When she is older and able to understand I will explain why it’s incorrect behavior and how to properly handle her feelings when she is upset or angry.
At two years old, my child says please, thank you and you’re welcome at the proper times. She also uses yes ma’am/sir and no ma’am/sir. She also brings her plate to the kitchen when she is done eating and throws her paper towel in the trash. I will do all that I can to raise proper, well mannered and well behaved children and adjust my disciplining skills as needed for them.
Post # 20
@PuntaCanaBride: I agree with this as well and forgot to mention in my post. We do not say empty threats, she gets one warning and than the threat is followed through. She knows for a fact, when I say she will have her toy taken away if she does not stop, by golly her toy gets taken away the next time she does it. I do not play games with her when I am teaching her the proper way to act and play. She knows she will not get her way when she throws a tantrum so they are few and far between. Usually they happen when she did not get a good nap or decided she didn’t want to eat the lunch I had made for her. Tiredness and hunger make her a bit cranky and I am more understanding in those times and tantrums. however, the full out, I’m not getting my way so I will scream tantrums? Yeah, momma don’t play those games.