(Closed) NWR: How have you changed in the past 5 years?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

5 years ago I was homeless, down to my last $5 which I spent on a bag of potatoes and pregnant.

Today, I’m almost finished with my PhD, have a beautiful 4 year old son and am eating organic food as a snack.

Post # 5
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Now – 50


I have always been outspoken but I am even more so now. I have become much more involved in causes, like the loss of personal freedoms in this country, animal welfare, GMOs, corporate welfare, the pesticides killing our bees, the destruction of habitat, etc. I am much more committed to trying to change things for the better.

Oh, and I have completely given up watching TV. One of the best things I have ever done!


Post # 6
2664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@bmo88:  The past 5 years have been crazy. I graduated high school, got my IB diploma, moved to college, tried to answer the dreaded “what am I going to do with my life?” question, chose a major I truly love, developed and conquered (for the most part) crippling anxiety, went through a terrible break up with my first true love, had a string of a few month-long relationships (and by string I mean like 3, haha), met my current SO, developed a hobby that I truly love (makeup), travelled to a few places with my SO, moved in with him, got our puppy, and now I’m here… studying my a grad-level class and hating my life. 😛 Just kidding! 


That wasn’t all necessarily in order, but it was for the most part. 

Post # 7
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

5 years ago I was making the biggest mistakes of my life–I was dating my ex, who knocked thedaylights out of me and got me to transfer out of my dream school, and sent me into a spiraling depression so deep that I failed out of college.

Then three years ago I met DH! And my whole life turned around. I got treatment for my depression, got back into college (online college), got into my career (Early Childhood Education), and lost 50lbs!

Now I’m happily married and expecting a baby!

Post # 8
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@bmo88:  I was also 20 five years ago. I was a sophomore in college living on campus. I went clubbing very often and started dating the last guy I was with before Darling Husband. I was very social and had a group of 6 close girlfriends who I swore would be my bridesmaids, one of them was also my roommate. I was a social drinker.

Now I am 25 (well in a few weeks!), I’ve been done with school for a few years now. I never go clubbing anymore because I grew out of that scene. Clearly I’m not dating that guy anymore lol. I’ve been married for 7 months, I live in a different part of the country, and I’m 14 weeks pregnant with our first baby. I’m a homebody now and I don’t really talk to any of those girls anymore and I didn’t even invite them to my wedding. I don’t drink at all anymore, not just because I’m pregnant but also because I don’t desire to anymore. 


Post # 9
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I was 21, graduated college and had just started a grueling government job that brought me so much pain!  I had just started dating my SO and was spiraling into my eating disorder.  

now I’m pursuing my PhD, living with an amazing man and two lovable dogs, and getting married this year!!  things have changed for SO much better!

Post # 10
5851 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

In 2009 I was just about to graduate law school and single….string of weird pseudo relationships before I met DW! Then I clerked and now am at my second law firm (really positive change)! I am also married and we are discussing the possibility of kids, which i never thought I wanted!!

Post # 11
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

So I’m 32 now, and 5 year ago I was 27…   

Biggest changes for me:


Professionally: Way more confident in my skills and abiliites.  A better work ethic.  More enjoyment of my job, because I’ve seen just about everything and know I have it really good.  

Relationship wise:  I used to be really clingy and needy in my relationships.  Looking back, I was just a pill to be with because I was just so desperate for love and attention.   Now I’m much more confident in who I am, and have ditched the clingy/needy nonsense.  I don’t demand love and respect, I give love and respect, and I’m much better at communicating.   My relationship turned from always feeling like a battle to being much easier.  Part of this is due to the evolution of my Self, but it is also due to the evolution of my Darling Husband. 

Personally:  I’m not sure. I’m more confident to be sure, but I also think I’ve recently become more withdrawn in some ways.  I’m still evolving, so I’ll hold back judgement on this one.  I like to think I’ve at least become a better friend and less self-absorbed.  

Post # 13
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Age Now: 28


I am married, a homeower, and buying a bottle of wine is no big deal. I am in way better shape–5 years ago I had a really sore ankel and hadn’t worked out in like a year. Now I lift weights and run marathons. I am so much happier and less stressed.


5 years ago, I was in grad school full time, working 3 jobs, and trying to make a name for myself. Now I have a real job that is a career and pays like 6 times as much as my little internships combined. It is nice to be able to eat.


5 years ago I was dating a great guy, but not the one. We were happy and I was begining and wonderful friendship with a girl I went to college with. Today, 2 relationships later, I am done with dating and the girl who was becoming my friend became my best friend. She’s getting married next year!

Post # 14
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I am 26, will be 27 at the end of the month.

Five years ago I was devastated. My mom had just passed away, my a$$hole of an ex broke up with me a month later and a week after that I started law school. Wow how life has changed! Since then I got married to an amazing man, graduated law school and passed the bar exam, started working in my first attorney position and most recently, had a beautiful baby girl 🙂 I feel very blessed!

Post # 15
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@bmo88:  Hmmm… I’m 23 now so at this time 5 years ago I was 18. I was a first year university student (well freshman in the US but we don’t say that here), and I was a Chemistry major which I didn’t end up liking as much as I thought I would. I switched to Music the next year, and met FH on the first day of second year after thinking nobody would want to take me on a date (had never been on a date at that point).

Professionally, I am on my way to becoming a teacher, a career path that I didn’t think I would take back when I was 18. I make a good amount of money playing flute at people’s weddings and events and also teaching privately.

Friendship wise, I thought a couple of my friends at that time would be life long friends. I was wrong. One of them was my roommate in first year (off campus apartments were cheaper) and that turned nasty at the end. The second friend was one I had known since we were in diapers. She had a thing for FH, but he only had eyes for me and she was pissed. After years of saying we would never let a guy come between us, it happened. So we dropped each other from our respective social circles.

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