(Closed) NWR: how important are family birthdays to you?

posted 7 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Is his brother’s bday a milestone? Like 30 or 40? I wouldn’t make the drive if it was too dificult for you and your fiance. We send cards and gifts but won’t visit unless it’s a milestone as my family is 6 hours away also.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Family birthdays are really important to us.  We always try and make sure we take the evening off if it’s someone birthday because we have a dinner or all go out to eat together.  FI’s birthday is on Christmas Eve, so we try and do something special for him away from Christmas.

All our siblings live in the same city so we don’t have that issue, but I can’t imagine driving 7-8 hours just for a birthday.  Skype works too!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We take birthdays very very seriously in my family.  Just as important to us as the big holidays – we would totally drive that long for somebody’s birthday.  I do not believe that birthdays are important only for children or for older folks. 

That said, why only for the one brother?  It should either be for everybody or for nobody.  Is there something special happening in his life right now that makes it a bigger deal?

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

My family gets together for all birthdays, including adults. My family is extremely close so these “get togethers” happen all the time. Everyone who is available will usually do something on Saturday evenings. 

However only the local people get together. I live halfway across the country so obviously I don’t attend. For my parents and brother I’ll send a gift and a card. For aunts/uncles/cousins I’ll usually just send a card. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ok, no, we wouldn’t go if it’s not a milestone. Maybe she just wants to see you guys? We visit about 3 times a year. Bdays are too difficult to travel for if it wasn’t already in the plans.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I live 2000 miles away from my brother/dad and 3000 miles away from my mom. We send cards/presents, but nobody’s presence is ever expected.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My family is out of town, so I call them to say happy birthday. For my sister, I call a and transfer cash into her account as present. My dad does the same for me as i do for my sistere. For Fiance family, since they’re in town, we take them out for dinner. He used to call them when he was 6 hours away. Birthdays are not big deal for us, unless excuse to get together or big mile stone.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ooops. Double post.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would say our family is midly-serious about birthdays, we all live in the same area so that makes it easier. I don’t think I would drive 7-8 hours for a non-milestone birthday though!

On the other hand, Fiance grew up JW and so… he just doesn’t get it, which was really hard for me the first couple of years, but he’s getting better!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We always got out to eat for birthdays, for me we go out at dinner. For my aunts and uncles we go out for breakfast. Everyone is invited. It isn’t expected that you show up, but I go as often as I can. Although we all live in the same town so we aren’t driving super far.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

No, not seriously. Unless its a first bday I wouldn’t make that trip. I would send a card and call them but thats the extent of it. We hardly even do presents anymore.

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