Post # 1
My work has an instant messaging system. I’m really, really considering sending an IM to my co-worker who sits catty corner to me about 15 feet away and asking her to please keep the volume (HER volume) down.
If you were her – how offended would you be?
I more or less get along with this co-worker but she’s got a rather grating, negative personality and she can be really pushy and likes to dump work on others – me included.
She’s also very LOUD and SHRILL and tends to RAISE HER VOICE when she talks on the phone or to people at her desk. She often gets confused by PC issues and today – she’s been on the phone all day trying to get some issue resolved and she’s giving me a freaking headache. When she’s not on the phone – she’s talking to herself.
About two weeks ago she was having a damn phone problem and she and someone from our helpdesk had her phone on speaker for about half an hour before I finally sent her an IM and asked her to please take it off speaker. She just responded that she was having issues and to please bear with her.
We work in a cube farm. I realize she doesn’t realize how loud and shrill she is but is there any way to tell her to pipe down without causing WWIII?
Post # 3
@Zhabeego: I wouldn’t be too offended, but it doesn’t sound like she’ll really listen to you and quiet down. Good luck!
Post # 4
Walking over to her cube and asking her politely would be waaaaay better than sending her an IM. Not only can the written word be more likely to be mis-interpreted than the spoken word, but come on… it’s 15 feet….
Post # 5
ughh I work in one too and my neighbour is.. loud. I keep headphones in most of the day to deal with it (my neighbour scares me and I don’t want to say anything to her). I wish I could be more constructive but in my case I’m a big chicken.
Succeed were I have failed, OP! 😉
Post # 6
I would probably be super embarrassed, but I agree with @fishbone that it would be better to go talk to her.
Post # 7
@Zhabeego: I think in open concept offices there is a certain level of etiquette that should be expected…but that doesn’t mean that anyone has to follow it. When I work in spaces like you described, I am always very cautious about volume, but a lot of folks just aren’t.
Just remember – it’s not what you say but how you say it. Try something like, I’m having a hard time concentrating today because of my headache. Would you mind taking your call in the conference room? Sound really carries here. Or my favourite – leave a copy of the etiquette standards for open concept offices on her desk 😛
Post # 8
@sanjessica: LOL. I realize face to face is usually best – but like I said, she’s a bit of an odd duck and kind of negative and pushy. I’m afraid if I talk to her face to face, she’s going to get ugly and LOUD and I really don’t want this to be a public issue. I was hoping a quick IM might just get the message across but, I also doubt it would help. One lone IM isn’t going to overcome a lifetime habit of being loud and shrill.
I think it bugs me too because she’s just so negative and overdramatic about everything. Everything is such a HUGE problem. And I have to listen to her day long, running commentary on all of it.
Post # 9
@Zhabeego: If you can’t say it to her face, don’t. An IM is the corporate equivalent of note passing and can be misinterpreted easily.
Post # 10
@Nona99: But she cackles when she laughs! Cackles!
Yeah, I know. IM not a good idea. I’m just more or less vending.
Post # 11
@Zhabeego: I work with some of the most horrible, loud, annoying, half crazed, self indulgent crones to ever crawl out of the forest and put on a power suit….they suck at tech stuff, they refer to their computers as “machines”, everything is a mini-crisis, we deal with crying, hysterics, passing out, arguments and school yard fingerpointing on a daily basis….it’s called work because it’s not fun….but at least it’s entertaining!
Post # 12
@Nona99: “If you can’t say it to her face, don’t.”
Agreed. OP – if you are that bothered by it, you need to get up and go talk to her. Don’t IM her.
Post # 13
There’s an attorney in my office who is loud as hell on the phone and it bothers everyone. Not even the attorneys will say something to her, so I sure as hell won’t since I’m just a legal assistant. I just put in my headphones.
Post # 14
we used to use signs that said quiet please, i’m on a call. i think most people got the message.
Post # 15
No matter where you work, there’s always one asshole who likes to ruin everyone’s day, be a loudmouth or just be a general PITA.
For those of you who say you don’t have an asshole you work with, then maybe you are the asshole.
Post # 16
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Can you bring up the issue to a manager, so that they can in turn talk to her about it (and coming from someone with more authority, maybe she’ll actually listen)? She should NOT be using speakerphone when everyone’s in cubes, that’s ridiculous.