(Closed) NWR: How to choose a church?

posted 10 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would look to see what’s in your area and check out statements of faith on their Web sites (if they have them) to see which most closely match your beliefs.

That said, I’ve found that connecting with people at the church is oftentimes more important to me than agreeing with every single theological point. The important thing is to have a pastor that makes you think and to be surrounded by people who are seeking God!

I agree with your fiance, though about the UU church. The fundamentals of Christianity just aren’t there and that’s a dealbreaker for me. 

Post # 4
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

I agree with lmariea. It’s more important to find a church where you bond with the other people who attend, and have a supportive pastor committed to growing himself and the church closer to God, rather than agreeing with every tiny theological belief. That’s never going to happen, realistically.

Definitely check out the Web sites of the churches in your area, and when you see one you like, go and attend a service! It’s a long process, but it will be worth it when you find a church you like. 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 5
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m facing a similar dilemma caitlanc.  I was raised UCC (Congregational) and LOVED my church growing up.  As I’ve grown up and decided to start going back to church (wasn’t going to happen in my 20s), I’ve been struggling with where to go.  My Fiance was raised Catholic, but because this issue is more important to me than it is to him, he’ll go along with whatever I like.  The trouble is that the church of my youth still sees me as a "kid" and all the other local UCC churches just haven’t felt quite right (Good lord, yesterday’s had a rock band, I’m really more of an organ and handbell choir type).  Though my identity is so entrenched in Congregationalism, I’m thinking I may have to look outside to find the right fit. 

I agree with the PPs.  Scour the statements of faith, but don’t let wording completely discourage you.  My Fiance constantly teases me for belonging to a "wishy-washy church with Christianity lite,"  (Such a charmer, that one). While I feel a little uncomfortable about the mission work or evangelization aspect of some other relatively liberal denominations, it really comes down to THAT particular congregation’s  vibe.  You’re going to have to suffer through a lot of uncomfortable services, but you WILL find one that works!  (By the way, Quakers ROCK!)

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