Post # 1
What is your best advice dealing with a bratty in law that you see a few times, if not more, a year?
A couple examples are throwing their DH under the bus and having a small meltdown for ‘not making a decision’.
Throwing a fit at Christmas for ‘having to do chores’.
Post # 2
Turn the other cheek and just ignore ignore ignore. Let them embarrass themselves and sit back and laugh to yourself
Post # 3
don’t make it your problem. be polite and curteous.
Post # 4
I agree with letting them embarrass themselves. You just smile and keep it moving. Don’t let it become your problem when you don’t have too. You only see them a few times, so I would just ignore them when necessary. Let them be a spoiled brat.
Post # 5
Ignore them, unless this is someone that you’re forced to see on a more regular basis, I’d just let it go. Sure, it’s probably annoying but there will ALWAYS be people in your life that you find annoying or bratty and there’s just no way of getting around that. Be cordial, and limit how often you see them if at all possible.
Post # 6
Thanks all, that is what I have been doing.
I’m having a small personal issue holding back at times when this person behaves this way as it is Fiance immediate sibling. And I feel that they can be unkind.
I have never outwardly said anyhting and have always been polite and kind but sometimes have mentioned it to Fi because it bothers me so. He is very understanding and gives similar advice.
Post # 7
unless they are on the offensive towards you, then this is not your issue. It sounds like this needs to be resolved between your in-law and their husband.
I would minimize how much you bring this up outside of the confidence of your marriage. You don’t want to be caught not minding your own business or gossiping.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
You’ll never be able to change others, you can only change your own reaction. Give yourself permission to feel your feelings – even if you’re so mad you could scream! – then take a few deep breaths and move on. If you must, limit the time you spend around them. But definitely don’t take the bait of meeting rudeness with rudeness! They want a rise out of you. Don’t give them the pleasure.
Post # 9
there is nothing you can do but shake your head and be thank full you are not like that, those people are attentnion whores.
Post # 10
As long as they aren’t behaving this way towards you or your fiancé, it’s best to just ignore them. Nothing you can say is going to change the behavior. If her husband is okay with it, that’s their deal.
Post # 11
oh trust me, it never gets shared except with fi. I’m doing my best to mind my business but sometimes I just shake my head like ‘geez!!’. I actually said to their husband, ‘they’re just hungry’ lol to help him feel better!
I never show my outrage to them but I do share with fi sometimes. There are times I bite my tongue even to fi because I know it won’t fix anything.
they were extremely rude to my fi at Christmas. It took a lot of strength for me not to say anythnig to them. They apologize months after the event, fi didn’t seem as perterbed as I, apparently this is how they have always acted (sad!).