Post # 1
My grandmother is not well. She is currently medicated to keep her comfortable and at home with my mom & my uncle. I just spoke to my mom and she said that my grandmother doesn’t know anymore that people are there.
She asked yesterday that my mom send her love to my sister and me (we live on the opposite coast) so both of us called her and talked to her, even though she couldn’t respond.
Although when I told her to “sleep well” I did hear a very faint “ok” and my uncle said she teared up when I was talking to her.
My mom said since everyone has gotten there and she’s talked to my sister and me her whole demeanor has changed and she seems very “at peace.”
I just feel so far away right now. At this point it’s a matter of hours… maybe a day or so. My Fiance is wonderful support and he and I just saw her a few months ago. She was also the first person I told about our engagement and she was so thrilled by it.
She’s lived a wonderful life and is currently in her own home which is what she wanted. I just feel so helpless here and I hate that I keep crying at work.
I am just trying to take comfort in knowing she is not in pain and has made peace with everything.
Post # 3
I just lost my great-aunt, who was like a grandma to me, five days ago so I know how it feels. Can you take a few days off work or something? 🙁 Take care of you, most importantly. Don’t feel like you have to be strong or that you can’t cry or be sad. Just let yourself feel how you have to feel.
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: Oh sweetie. ((HUGS)). My eyes welled up while I was reading your post. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way and going through this. Distance is so difficult during times like this. It’s so great that you were able to say some words to your grandmother and that you said she sounded like she was at peace once she finally got to speak with you and your sister. Just know that she loves you as you love her. Hang in there. My thoughts are with you.
Post # 5
I just wanted to say that I’m terribly sorry. I know exactly how you feel. My grandmother was 91 when she passed, and I didn’t have a chance to say goodbye like I had wanted to. I saw her that weekend, which was great, and she was her normal, happy self. My mom had called on Monday and let me know that she had found her about 4 hours after she had a heart attack, and she passed away on the way to the hospital.
So, though she was 91, and we knew it was coming eventually, it was still a shock…b/c she wasn’t sick. So, I’m very glad that you at least had the chance to tell her to sleep well and for her to be able to register that. It’s a wonderful memory that you’ll be able to have of your grandmother and though it’s only a matter of time, she’ll be at peace soon and be watching over you.
Post # 6
Oh honey, I am tearing up. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone. I’m trying to just focus on the good things to come and keep being present right now.
I have a fund raising event I’m supposed to go to tonight with a lot of good frineds. Both my mom and my Fiance think I should go. I am really going to try to go and it’s close enough to home that I can get home quickly if I feel like I can’t be around people.
I know my grandmother is at peace and she would want me to continue on with my life. She’s 94 and is an amazingly strong woman. Now I have to learn from her strength and be strong too.
ETA: I am so glad I got to talk to her yesterday and tell her how much I love her and how I know she loves me too. I also spoke with her on Sunday when she was still able to have a conversation with me.
Post # 8
Just wanted to update you and thank you for being so supportive.
My grandmother passed away yesterday. My dad told me she was very peaceful and that her passing was calm.
I haven’t talked to my mom yet (it was her mom), but I will probably speak with her today.
She was my last remaining grandparent. I cried last night, today I’m just kind of numb, but I’m happy she’s at peace.
My mom will be here next week for wedding dress shopping so we have brighter things to look forward to.
Thank you all for your support.
Post # 9
@KatNYC2011: I’m so very sorry, I’m glad she went peacefully. Hugs and thoughts to you and your family!
Post # 10
@beekiss2: Thank you. I’m just so glad my mom will be here in a few days. I haven’t seen her since I before I got engaged, so it’ll be fun to have something exciting to celebrate together.
Post # 11
@KatNYC2011 – I cried reading your post. I posted this on Monday, but to recap – – my grandmother suffered a massive heart attack Saturday night, and remains in critical condition. She has a balloon doing all of her heart activity, and the doctors have advised my family to stay close, as they don’t see her coming home. My grandmother is a hilarious, stubborn, beautiful woman. She is my best friend, and my biggest ally an defender growing up. She always listens to my crazy ideas, and encourages me to no end.
I drove 3 hours each way to see her Monday and Tuesday, and although she’s very ill, she’s in good spirits and was joking with me and Fiance. I love her more than words can say.
I have been a little numb and dazed all week – and tomorrow is my first wedding shower. I feel so out of it I hope I can at least act like I am enjoying it.
I’m praying she can hold on and prove the doctors wrong – I want her here so, so badly. I am the first grandchild to be getting married, and I want her to be there for every minute of it.
I am praying for you and your family during what I know is an emotionally devastating time.
Best wishes and hugs,
Post # 12
@Linz1231: Hugs to you. And I am hoping your grandmother can be strong as well.
I am the first of her biological grandchildren to get married (my uncle married a woman who already had 2 kids) and she didn’t get to see that. But she did get to know that I was getting married before she passed.
I knew she wasn’t going to make the trip cross country to see me get married, but I thought maybe she’d be able to see pictures as she was very strong up until a week or so ago.
She even drove herself to the hair salon 2 weeks ago to get her hair done.
She was an amazing, strong woman and I am so sad she is gone, but I know she went on her terms (at home surrounded by family) and I have to take comfort in that.
I will keep good thoughts for your grandmother.