(Closed) NWR: I just met the most rude old man… RANT

posted 8 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d be inclined to talk to management at the gym. You’re paying to use their facility, in a safe and comfy environment. Yucky! I’d be unsettled, alright, but that said, you most likely have nothing to fear, so to speak. He’s certainly creepy, but surely not dangerous.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ew. There are some older folks out there that think they can do whatever they want because they’re old. I’d say see if you can go with someone else to the gym, and if you go again and go alone, tell him he’s out of line like you would with any other jerk.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Few things here:

He may be totally unaware of what he is saying. It could be a generational thing where his day, men talked to women like that all the time. He may have meant no harm.

HOWEVER…..

Sounds like you were in a confined space; he was offending you; he wasn’t respecting your boundaries and yes, he was being super rude. It sounds like you felt crowded, disrespected, nervous and anxious. All valid feelings.

Maybe you might consider speaking the apartment manager about this. Something tells me you’re probably not the first person he has made uncomfortable. Not sure how proactive management is, but maybe they can send out a general bulletin asking that tenants be respectful to others while using the facilities.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Gross.  Talk to management.  If he’s as bad as you say, I doubt you’d be the first.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Haha my thought is that if you TRUELY wanted some ones money, you’d be going after an old man, not someone around your age. Isn’t that what suger daddies are for?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Eww! I would tell management, too. That’s just not okay, no matter how old he is.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@ceamoste: haha that’s a great point!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The thing that really rubs me the wrong way is how he’s passing judgements on you because of your age and you wearing an engagement ring. How rude! Definitely go report him. I suspect it’s not the first time he may have offended someone judging from the way you described his actions. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Calling it a generational misunderstanding is simply encouraging his behavior to continue to become worse. Speak to the manager, immediately. If he is talking like this to you chances are he is doing it to others as well.

If this happens again, calmly tell him that you do not wish to speak with him. If he continues to speak with you walk away and find the manager, who should already be informed from your previously complaint about him. If he persists tell him that you are calling the police. At that note, keep your cell phone with you at all times.

Do not excuse his behavior based on his age. Age does not give ANYONE the right to harass another person.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

ew ew ew! creepy old men are so disturbing! where does he get off? (in the gym, apparantly!) ok, bad joke. seriously, call management. you pay rent. you shouldn’t have to feel scared to go anywhere because a creep is lurking around offending young women.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah, definately talk to the management at your gym.

Also, you probably know this, but you don’t have to talk to him. You’d don’t owe him an explination about why you walk on a treadmill instead of running up mountains or whatever. He has no right to ask about your martial status or comment on your age. My advice would be to ignore him if you see him again – even if he talks to you. Wear headphones and turn them up if he starts talking. Yeah, it’s rude, but you don’t owe it to him to be polite. Just because someone talks to you doesn’t mean you need to respond.

(I know I sound like a bi**h, but honestly, giving myself permission to ignore men who set off my creep radar is one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@thepinktyrant: Don’t worry about being “mean”. He obviously didn’t care how he was treating you.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It sounds like this guy has something wrong with him.  Stay away from him.  You could start running outside to avoid him.  Maybe talk to your property managment.  You need to feel safe in your apt building.

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