[NWR] I think I just need to vent. We regret buying a house and feel stuck.

posted 3 months ago in Beehive
Post # 17
1754 posts
Buzzing bee

Hire landscapers to redo your yard with low maintenance plants, pebbles, rocks, etc. Things that don’t need much maintenance. 

Post # 19
408 posts
Helper bee

When we moved into our house the whole front yard (small) was mulched with a fabric under it so weeds didn’t grow through and they had super low maintenance plants. We also have a larger cement patio in the back which makes up for some of the grassy area. I totally agree with hiring a landscaper though! Sounds like it would be beyond worth it for you. 

Post # 20
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Definitely hire landscapers/lawn guys. It shouldn’t cost too much.

Post # 21
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

+1 for gardeners and cleaners.  No one ever said you had to be amazing at carpentry plumbing and electric and gardening and keeping the house spotless to own one.  If it’s stressful, get some help and support a local business at the same time. 🙂

Post # 22
9435 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

So take the flower beds out and just have grass then. Or Preen the shit out of them.

There are so many more options than selling your house at a loss of thousands of dollars over some weeds.

Post # 23
4534 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

loveisbrewing :  don’t mean to be doom or gloom but are you sure you want kids? Kids are like gardens and houses, they require a lot of constant work and generally take away from your ability to live relaxed and stress free! 😉

Honestly though, spend the money and hire someone to make your garden lower maintenance for you. I know someone who had a massive garden and they basically cut it in half by building a fence and planting against the fence as to create a fake property boundary. Behind the fence they let it grow wild and every six months they’d hire a guy with a small Bobcat type  machine to clear the back of the block. Could this be an option for you? 


Post # 25
1628 posts
Bumble bee

YES! Definitely hire a landscaper!  I have a big back yard, and had a bunch of planting beds added when I moved in. Then I didn’t have time to maintain them. So I paid the landscaper to convert half of them *back* to lawn. UGH. Plus the neglect allowed tons of weeds to take hold in the beds that remained.

If I had it to do over, I would have done the following:

  • Find pictures of back yards that I liked that included patios, decks and other hardscape so I could take out about half of the lawn.
  • Interview at least 5 different companies for their ideas.
  • Make sure they understood I was looking for *low maintenance*. This includes the plants and trees, as well as using composite decking for stairs and a deck. Cedar requires maintenance, and draws carpenter bees, which can be quite destructive. I had to replace my back steps because of this.
  • Ensure that the changes to the yard will not cause a water runoff problem.*
  • Hire out maintenance other than lawn mowing – I don’t mind that.

*Regarding water runoff: Altering your landscaping can cause water runoff into your neighbor’s yard. This is not good, and in some circumstances, something they can sue you for. My next door neighbors completely relandscaped their yard earlier this year. It’s gorgeous. However we have had 3 heavy rains since then, and I have video of water literally pouring under the fence into my yard.

It has washed away all the mulch in one section. that mulch is now in my grass. The water continues, flowing through my yard and into my other neighbor’s yard. These other neighbors have an area that is mulched and has stepping stones through it. It flooded and their mulch washed up over their patio! The mulched area is 3″ deep! So one poorly planned landscape job is affecting two properties.

I sent them the video and some pictures. They are reasonable people, but I haven’t heard back yet. During the last rain I figured out the problem, took a video of it, and will be talking to them about the fix.

Sorry to ramble on about that, but I’m pissed! I spent time and money to get my beds mulched this year, plus I don’t want 2 – 3″ of water on my lawn every time it rains!

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