(Closed) NWR: I’m afraid my daughter’s classmates will tease her because of how I look

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Awww, SoontobeMrs.A… you are such a sweet mother for being so concerned about Annabelle. So, the way I see it, you have to major options.

1) Try to keep your mouth closed as much as possible until they’re able to repair the gap in your mouth. That way, none of the kids at school will see and you’ll be able to spare her anything terrible that mean little kids might say to her.

2) Embrace it. Be yourself, horrible gap and all. The world is really mean sometimes, especially when you’re talking about kids. But I think if you could hold your head high and prove that the way you look doesn’t matter nearly as much as you carry yourself, it could be a really good lesson for her. Don’t go out of your way to flaunt your dental problems or anything, but don’t act ashamed! I spent a lot of my childhood feeling ashamed of being different, and I would have really admired someone who embraced it. If you do this though, you should probably talk to her about it so that she doesn’t think you’re out to embarass her or anything.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it’s so sweet that you are thinking of her like this. Can you subtly hold your hand in front of your mouth when you talk? haha I have no idea . . .

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Miss Fish: Well said, I’m with Miss Fish on this one, you could play it either way! 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: How many teeth did you have extracted?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I remember when I was in school, a kid was getting teased because his mother looked like a model (“she’s too pretty to be your mom,” etc.). Sometimes kids will just find a way to tease–but they also can be so resilient. It sounds like your love for your daughter makes you a great role model and she can draw great strength from you.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Awww you are such a great mom!  I honestly don’t know how you made it thru the tooth being pulled with no pain killers.  I have horrific teeth.  I had a tooth get infected and by the time I had it looked at three teeth had to be pulled.  I’m supposed to get a plate to help with keeping my teeth all correctly in place.  They are in the back.  I really was worried people would see and over time I realized they can’t.   I thought about you over the weekend and how you must be feeling.  I think the previous posters are right… embrace it.  It’s a short term problem, that will be fixed.  You are showing Annabelle how to hold her head high and soldier on thru things in life, as they aren’t always perfect and pretty, and it’s how you handle yourself during that time that makes the difference.

I read somewhere they make over the counter putty to plug up the whole … maybe you could try that?

I’m so glad you haven’t stopped posting here!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

alright girl.  This is the second post I have seen about your insecurity.  You need to embrace yourself and love you for who you are.  You are eloquent and just by reading your posts, you are a beautiful person inside which shines through on the outside.  

As society would have it, we are all supposed to fit a mold and fortunately for us, we dont otherwise this would be a very very boring place to be.  If everyone looked like a model society would start picking them apart too.  I know that I am not a model by any means, and I was very insecure before I met my Fiance but he makes me feel like the most beautiful person in the world and thats all that matters to me.

Moral to this rambling, I dont know you or even know what you look like but based on things that you post, you are gorgeous. Your daughter loves you and thinks you are the most beautiful person in the world just because you are her mommy. I have a 7 year old and public school is the most cruel setting in the world.  Kids make fun of each other, bully each other and just treat each other badly because their parents dont teach them any better and expect the teacher to do so. 

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

While it is very sweet for you to want to spare your daughter any embarrasment, this could actually be an opportunity to be a good role model- if you and she got made fun of let’s say…the way you react to it and carry yourself (with dignity and grace) could be a lesson she will carry with her forever!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

You have two adjacent teeth missing? That would have been helpful to know when I told you they could make you something temporarily to fill in the space. You have an entirely different scenario now, as one tooth is able to be done easily, but two? Its possible they can make you a bonded splint or even a flipper plate, but it really complicates things and will make it less stable. They will always allow for healing time so they don’t have to make it twice when the space heals and shrinks. Have you gotten any answers or just a waiting time before they can do anything?

Something can ALWAYS be done, but it comes at a price. People have teeth extracted and new teeth placed immediately after every day.

If you have no choice right now, maybe you can make arrrangements for someone else to pick her up and drop her off.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

you could always ask your oral surgeon to make you a temp flipper.  Its almost like a retainer with teeth attached to fill the spaces.  Should be covered my insurance or possibly even given to you by your oral surgeon. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As some other posters have suggested, can you get a flipper? My mom is having some dental work done and has two teeth missing as well. She has a flipper though and you can’t tell at all that anything is amiss when she wears it.

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