Post # 1
Hey all, I have been thinking about this today and thought it merited a poll. BF and I recently purchased a fridge and the other day a family member was admiring it and asked us where we got it. I responded along the lines of “we got it online and it only cost $600!” (About 65℅ off current selling price)
They said “wow that’s awesome!”
I am the type who overanalyzes things and now I am worried that people may think it was rude that I told them how much we paid for it. this is a difficult concept for me because I know (at least I think) it is ok in some cases (like clothes) and not in others. Money questions confuse me!
When is it ok and when is it not?
Post # 2
I think the way you said it was fine because you were excited about a getting a good deal. It would be different if you had been bragging about how much expensive something was but it doesn’t sound like you did that.
Post # 3
If people ask and I don’t mind answering I’ll let them know.
If it’s something I don’t feel comfortable saying “Oh- I forget” or “I’d rather not answer that”
If the question were reserved as is “Is it rude to ask someone how much they paid?” Then I would say yes- it is rude.
Post # 4
To ask is rude, to answer isn’t. Usually, although bragging is rude. You were not rude to say you purchased it on sale.
Post # 5
I think it depends on the context. What you did was fine IMO, because you were talking about getting a great deal and they asked about where you got it. I do the same thing, someone comments about how they love a piece of furniture and I respond with something like “Thanks, can you believe I found it on craigslist for $100?”.
If it’s done in a braggy way or without being prompted at all, then I think that can cross over into rude territory.
Post # 6
I was just bragging to my colleagues that I got a dress from the US with shopping for just usd 100 while here one would have to pay over 250 for it! 😉 I like talking good deals
Post # 7
I brag about good deals I got sometimes, especially to my family. So, no I don’t think it was rude. If you had paid a huge amount and were saying “oh we paid 3k for it because we only by the best” I would say you are being snobbish.
Post # 8
it’s tough because once I said and I only paid _____ and to that person that was a lot of money so she mistook it for bragging or for me liking nice things and being materialistic haha when I was more so saying how much it was because relatively speaking the item was cheap in comparison to many other items of the same quality being sold…
Post # 9
I’m guilty of oversharing how much I pay for things. I get excited when I get a good deal and I’ve sometimes told people that without them asking.
For example, I just bought a new designer purse that was on clearance because it was considered a summer color, but I really think it’s a year round color. I had it at work yesterday and one of my coworkers commented on it and I told her how it was on clearance and how I had a gift card left over for my birthday and how I was able to use a coupon that you usually cannot use toward that brand. She then told me it was still more than she’d ever pay for a purse and I felt uncomfortable.
So I think in general it’s not rude, but I’m trying to say “oh I got it for a great deal” instead of actually saying the price.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone. It is good to know that most people would not think it was rude. We just bought our house this year and I naturally get excited about buying appliances and stuff for the first time since we are no longer apartment living haha. Gosh I sound so boring and domestic. 10 year old me would be disappointed.
Post # 11
If I got a good deal on something I will absolutely share how much I paid. I love discussing bargains but like PP have said bragging as to how expensive something was is in poor taste
ETA: we just bought a new house as well and I got so excited about being able to own a washer and dryer. Appliance excitement is very real lol
Post # 12
While it’s often exciting to exclaim about a good deal, I try to refrain from saying actual dollar amounts. To you something might be a good deal, but it could still be too much for others to afford, and could make them feel bad about their own finances.
Post # 13
In the context of what you said definitely not rude. You might want to not continue to tell everyone what everything costs though. I have felt uncomfortable before when someone said how “cheap” something was but it was still quite a bit more than I could afford. Then again, that could be just my issue and not anything usual.
I also get excited when I find something awesome at a discounter and sometimes want to tell my friends, hey I got this fancy jacket for $10!!
But bragging about expensive items is in poor taste. I once had someone higher up in the company I was at, show off her very expensive shoes to us, which are known to cost in the $1000. Meanwhile, we were all making peanuts in pay as lower on the scale workers. I thought it was insensitive of her to show us basically what amounts to a month of our pay in a pair of “fun” shoes and show it off. I mean if I had seen them and knowing full well what they cost I would have thought “oh those are nice” and nothing else after that. But having them thrown in our faces was not cool.
Sorry to go off on a tangent, but what you did, totally fine and I would be excited too.
Post # 14
Yeah I agree, I can’t help but be happy about a good deal. I would never gloat about how expensive something was.
When people ask me how much something costs, it depends on the context. If it’s because they’re shopping for something similar or are trying to budget, I’m happy to divulge to help a friend or family member. If it’s just plain nosy, a good old “I’m not really sure” saves the day.
Post # 15
That reminds me of something that happened at my old job. My boss called me and another girl into his office to help him decide which watch to get his wife for Christmas….both options were over $1000. So like, our monthly salary at the time lol