(Closed) NWR: Is it true that opposites attract?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance and I are very different. Sometimes it does get annoying when I want to go out and he wants to stay home (this happens all the time lol) but we meet in the middle and we have a great relationship most of the time lol.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re definitely opposites in a couple areas…

a big one is I’m very black & white, right & wrong in how I see things and he’s got a much bigger mercy gift… lol

Also I’m much more bold and he’s very reserved in speaking to people & handling things….

Over the last year 1/2 of engagement we’ve already evened each other out… He helps me see people more compassionately and I’ve helped he deals with issue much more head on now..

I think that’s the way marriage was designed to be… otherwise none of us would ever change or grow 😉

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My ex and I were complete opposites, and it obviously just didn’t work for me. My husband and I are a lot alike, and it’s been making life so much easier.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Fiance and I are a classic case of opposites attract.

He is a police officer, Republican, gun enthusiast, semi introverted, practical man. He is also a very ‘right here right now’ person.

I am an extreme people person working in hospitality, Democratic, dramatic, super organized and more of a ‘future minded ‘ person.

But it works for us. We are balanced, IMO.

Also, since we share the same values and have the same goals for our future and lifestyle.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@napabridekelsey: we share the same values <– exactly.. Darling Husband and I have the same values and when dealing with anything we stand pretty much in the same place just coming from different directions =)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

agreed.  our core values are the same, but personalities are very different.  we definitely balance each other out.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

It depends in how opposite and in which way, and also how willing are two people to compromise.

My exes and I were very opposite in all ways. And they are exes. My Darling Husband and I are opposites in some ways, but the same in the important ways.  We even disagree on some polictical topics, but at the end of the day we respect each other and share many of the same values- respect for humanity! each other! stability! desire to explore and enjoy life!

You don;t have to be the same, but you do have to be able to compromise and be happy with that compromise. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are completely opposite. Sometimes it’s a bit scary when you think about it, but it’s been working for 4 years so I guess it’s alright 🙂  He is very outdoorsy (hunter, fisherman, hiker, builds cabins, etc.) and I am more artsy (like reading, going to plays, staying home, etc.).  We kind of each try to do things that the other likes and have ended up enjoying them! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

We’re opposites, but it works for us.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re opposites in some ways, but not in the important ways. For instance, I am more social than she is, she is more introverted, she likes sports and ghost shows and I like shopping and romantic comedies. hah. But we have all the same values. We want the same things in life and agree about money, children, lifestyle, etc. We are definitely going to be pushing each other to grow and change and be more balanced, but we have a very solid foundation.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Hm, I guess we’re opposite in some ways. I’m very detailed and he’s just like whatever. When I remind him to do something, he’s like… wow I’m so glad I keep you around 🙂 He likes to be with people at all times it seems like. I like to be at home watching TV, doing nothing before it gets too late! We both have pretty bad tempers though.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Very similar to my Fiance. So much that it’s comical! It’s like we shared the same childhood almost…we watched the same kinds of shows as kids. I’ve been in relationships where I was completely different from my ex-partners and there was a reason why it didn’t work out. My Fiance and I share the same values, beliefs (different religions though), prospects, and we’re settled into our own lives and personalities.

The researchers and several relationship counselors have this saying, “Opposites attract, then they attack.” Corny, I know, but there’s some truth to it.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re the same but different. He’s very introverted, just like me. We are both socially awkward, and very emotionally driven. But we have different views on life, and how we see it, and what we take in. It’s ok though, we understand eachother immensley, and have love for eachother like I have never known.

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