(Closed) NWR- Issues with new priest

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@edgypeanuts: wow this is not right…. would contacting the diocese be an option?? i dont think confronting this priest is going to do any good.

Post # 4
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh man, this reminds me of a priest I had. I grew up in a really small church (less than 200 people for the whole county) and the diocese liked to send priests who were about to retire or problem priests there. 

We got this one priest who seemed to really wish Vatican II had never happened. He was ALL ABOUT the pomp and circumstance. He would stop mass in the middle to explain the proper way to do everything because he wanted it to look perfect. I mean, I was 12 at the time and even I was sitting there thinking “yes, we all know how to light a candle. You taking 10 minutes to explain it is making the mass losing its beauty rather than someone tilting a lit candle toward an unlit candle rather than the other way around” 

He would stare down babies in church until the mother took the baby out. 

My mom accidentally poured too much wine as an EM once and he turned to her on the altar and said “if there’s any left over, heads will roll.”

My parents left that church after that.

It was really, really sad because almost everyone stopped going to the church. We used to do breakfasts before church which were some of my favorite memories of childhood. But he put an end to that because of the no eating rule (fair), but then also pushed church way back in the morning so they couldn’t hold them after church either. (Mass went from 9 in the morning till 11, I think).

I wanted to get married in that church, but apparently he wouldn’t allow weddings unless he was the one saying the mass, and if that didn’t happen, he would make things very difficult for you. 

I don’t really have any advice for you…but I guess just pray for him and the church?

Post # 6
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

If you feel there is a substantial issue, you should write to the bishop’s office.  However, unless you have first-hand knowledge of the events described above, you likely won’t see much happen.  Talk to the people that were there and see if they would write a letter with you. 

Post # 7
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I once had a pastor outed.  I was “new” to the church, and everyone there was terrified of the pastor.  But no one wanted to say anything and get labeled.  The bishop came for my confirmation, and I had the opportunity for confession.  During confession I aired out the dirty laundry I had heard (all second hand hearsay).  I told him I wasn’t sure any of it was true at all, but those were the rumors circulating in the parish and I was concerned about the gossip.  Apparently when he investigated, the priest admitted several things and he was quickly removed.  (One of them was pretty serious.)  If I hadn’t spoken up, he would still be there.  I’d recommend going to your bishop.  Whether or not you want to give the nitty-gritty, you could still let him know that parishoners are leaving left and right and you are concerned.

Post # 8
2867 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with CoffeeHound and MightySapphire.  You should go to the Bishop’s office and submit a complaint, of course nicely (not like you wouldn’t).  I definitely think priests should have compassion and empathy. 

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