Post # 197
@MrsRs: my cuz e found out she had cervical cancer while preg, depending on the stage u cn go through ur pregnancy but u hav to hold off all therapies until the bby arrives… Everything went well for her she has her lil grl and is cancer free at 26. Ur mil is truly a heartless biotch to even say anything other than I’m sry and I’m here to help and support u
Post # 198
@MrsRs: I hope your recovering the best possible. My heart goes out to you. MUCH LOVE coming your way, just wanted to let you know your a strong amazing woman. Xo
Post # 199
Hope everything went as planned with your appointment. I also hope you are holding up well, I’m sure your DH is taking great care of you. When you get a chance and feel a little better let us know how you’re doing. We are thinking of you and sending lots of hugs!!!
Post # 200
Weddingbee just ate my post. I’m not feeling up to writing it all out again, so I’ll be brief and update later.
In short, everything was successful in terms of the appointments. I went in for the first pill near the start of the week, and for the second yesterday.
I have had some good news about my surgery, but will go into further detail later.
Thank you to all the messages of support, they do mean a lot.
Post # 201
@MrsRs: I’m glad that it’s going well for you so far. Right now, just think about yourself and your own health. Glad to hear that there is good news regarding your surgery. xoxox
Post # 202
@MrsRs: All I can offer are hugs. I’m so glad that your husband is standing up for you and what the two of you need to do to continue on with the best and healthiest life you can.
I had a toxic Mother-In-Law as well, so I can sympathize with that.
I’m glad that your appointments went well, and I do hope that they continue to do so.
Post # 203
Oh my gosh, I am so terribly sorry! It’s heartbreaking and infuriating how unsympathetic some people can be in such times. She had no right to say what she did and it’s just not something that can be forgiven. She’s clearly missing that fact that this is what you and your husband have decided is best for you while you kick cancers butt!!!
Sending you love, light, and hugs***
Post # 204
I just saw this today, I’m so sorry for all you are going through. I’m glad it is going well so far.
Post # 205
Sorry for the delay in updating. Life gets in the way. I haven’t forgotten all the support here,and I thank you all for it, but I’ve needed a little bit of space away from everything.
I go in for surgery next week. My left breast is being completely removed, but my team at the hospital say that they will do a lumpectomy on the right – and they will save as much of the breast tissue as possible. It feels so strange to celebrate such an odd thing, but I feel like it is a battle already won. I am so excited at the thought of getting to keep a breast! It’s such a backwards thought, but it is wonderful.
After the surgery I will be doing around 6 week radiation therapy. After that… who knows?
In slightly more awful news, my husband and I have decided to get a restraining order against his mother.
After our second trip to the clinic, after the abortion, we came home to a letterbox stuffed full of anti-abortion, pro-life leaflets and pictures that his mother had printed out of aborted foetus and babies.
My husband went to her house, and he won’t tell me exactly what happened, but I gather that the gist was that either she stop or he would disown her as his mother and she would never see us again. This didn’t go down well, and she decided that I was both a baby killer and a whore. So now husband is in the process of sorting out the order 🙁 It’s not a great situation, but it’s better than before. Without all her madness I can actually focus on all the appointments and meetings.
There’s nothing much more to say, other than to thank you all again.
Post # 206
I am dumbfounded and absolutely livid for you. What she has said and done is inexcusable on so many levels. I commend you for being a better woman that I would’ve been in that situation.
You do not need that type of toxicity in your life. You have a difficult road ahead of you. I’m glad that you have support from your husband and your family. Take comfort in them and forget about her.
Post # 207
@MrsRs: Do you know if you are estrogen-receptor positive and/or Her-2 positive? You should ask your doctors if they haven’t already said so. There are drugs that specifically treat breast cancers that are each of those types of positive. Wishing you the best!
Post # 208
@MrsRs: Good god. A human being should not have to go through this kind of horror. I’m so sorry about your loss, your cancer, and the Mother-In-Law from hell. I just cannot believe that she would react this way and be willing to lose her son in the process. I’m glad to hear that your treatments are moving forward and that you will only need a lumpectomy in the other breast. I’m sure that small victories such as this mean so much right now. Stay strong.
Post # 209
I don’t want to rock the boat, but is there a reason this thread has been moved to marriedlife from emotional? I was on my ‘normal’ account for a little bit, and it took me a long time to find where this had been moved to. I know it’s not wedding related, but many threads on there aren’t specifically about getting married – and I’m not sure how this relates to ‘married life’ in general.
Post # 210
@MrsRs: My heart breaks for you. She is insane. I’m glad your husband is supporting you through this! Keep us updated and GL on your recovery. It’s the small victories that lead to the biggest!! (:
Post # 211
uhh..what a disgusting thing she said. So…then does that suggest that you don’t have any children at all even once your illness is under control, because you won’t have breasts???
But In the end…you have to let it go. Although I would be just as livid as you….she will probably never understand why this hursts you so.
Can I ask what is expected to happen if you decided not to abort while moving forward with treatment? Would the pregnancy be expected to end anyway? I know there are chemo drugs that are safe for pregnant women…so just curious. Clearly you’ve thought long and hard about this one…but I agree, just heartbreaking descision to make…..and her remarks were not only insensitive but completley ignorant.