(Closed) NWR: 'It's probably a good thing that you have to abort.'

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 244
1943 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Carolsays:  Read her updates, she has already had it done, because it was the only way to remove all of the cancerous cells.  They tried to save most of one but it wasn’t possible.  I know you mean well, but your post came off somewhat offensive.  She and her doctor made the best choice for her.

Post # 245
492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MrsRs:  I am so so sorry… I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you. I am so sorry that you are being forced to deal with the added stress of your mother-in-law right now as well… My mom had to have a late abortion because of health issues (like the child’s skull not developing which 30 years ago meant he wouldn’t survive)  and had a few very late miscarriages, which I know ripped her to pieces… On the day of one of those miscarriages, my uncle phoned to say my aunt was pregnant, my mom spent the whole week crying and that wasn’t even someone attacking her so I can’t imagine how hard this is for you. That being said I think your mother-in-law is evil, I have no words for her I really don’t… You didn’t choose an abortion, you had no choice… Please understand her actions are a reflection of her, not of you. I can’t believe someone can be so heartless and cruel.

I hope you have a speedy recovery and that you never have to go through this ever again.

Post # 246
1569 posts
Bumble bee

Sorry you are dealing with so much right now. I wanted to share that 3 very close loved ones are breast cancer survivors. They all have celebrated their 10+ cancer free anniversaries and one of them did have kids after recovery. 

I hope you don’t mind me suggesting checking into Livestrong’s programs. They help diagnosed patients with pretty much a big part of cost of preservation of eggs in case doctors fear treatment might damage reproductive system.

I am sorry you need to terminate current pregnancy. I can’t even imagine the pain. Just wanted to share story of loved ones including a recovery with kids after treatment.

Big hug and hoping for a fast recovery. 

And yes, your Mother-In-Law is NUTS . Not only for the idiotic comment she made, but because she is invading your space by calling non stop to make a non apology. Guard your space dear. You’ll need all your energy for healing and recovering. If you need to, have your husband tell his mom to back the F off. I understand you trying not to make him even worst, but it is YOU who needs to be cared of and protected right now. 


Best wishes and blessings

Post # 247
26 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m SO sorry for everything you’re going through! I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Your MIL’s behavior and words are completely unacceptable, and you deserve all the support and love right now. Focus on you, your marriage, not a horribly unhappy person (since only a truly miserable person can let such evil come out of their mouth). God bless. 

Post # 248
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@MrsRs:  I’m so glad things are feeling so positive for you – I hope it continues on the up-and-up with your wonderful new kitty!

Post # 249
1178 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsRs:  I am sorry I posted to you without reading the whole thread. I did not realize you had updated. Obviously, in your case, what was done was necessary.

Post # 250
1098 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsRs:  I’m so glad you are ok!!

My mother is fighting breast cancer right now too. SHe was at stage 4 when they found it but she is doing well. She too lost her breast and ALL her body hair. But she is alive, as you are!!!!!


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