(Closed) NWR: 'It's probably a good thing that you have to abort.'

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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2503 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First off, I am so sorry about the difficult decision you and your DH have to make and I can only imagine all the mixed emotions you both are feeling. I am sure you are strong and a fighter, and I wish you the best and hope that you beat this cancer and start your family soon.

Second, I am appalled at the comment your Mother-In-Law made. It is inexcusable and unjustified in any light. It’s ludicrous to assume that breast-feeding is the exclusive option and thus assume that any woman who can’t should not be pregnant. There are many woman that are unable to breastfeed and are amazing mothers with well-adjusted, healthy children. Formula and nutrition have come a long way.

Please don’t let her get to you like this. Maybe you just have to block her number or something in the meantime. It is not worth it to let someone so misguided hurt you this way, especially in a time like this.

 

Post # 18
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My heart is breaking for you right now, and I can’t believe someone would say something like that. What your Mother-In-Law said to you is absolutely horrific. You’re 100% right to ignore her until she offers a true apology. Even then, this will be very hard to forgive. I’m glad your husband walked out with you & understands how much she hurt you.

I’m so so sorry for what you’re going through & wish you a speedy recovery <3 sending some prayers your way.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  I don’t have any words to make you feel better, though I wish I did.  All I can say is that bitch is seriously out of her fucking mind.  Having many family members who have fought cancer, I can tell you that you need to focus on YOUR health.  Fuck her.  Fuck how she feels.  Your body is going to be seriously physically stressed, and battling cancer is mentally and emotionally exhausting.  Your husband needs to tell that crazy woman that she needs to back off, NOW.  She either stops calling or you block her number.  If and when you’re ready to talk to her again, you can approach her on your terms.  She does not get to guilt and berate you into maintaining a relationship with her after what she said.

Post # 21
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7813 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@badabing88:  I didn’t know you were allowed to say “cunt” on weddingbee or I would have! Also, I say what the actual fuck all the time and I’ve never heard anyone else say it 😛 Seriously though, I completely agree that I would never talk to this woman again. We have cut out people in FI’s family for lesser offenses. Just because you are “family” does not give you an all access pass to be a bitch.

Post # 22
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414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this. Cancer (the FU*KER!!!!) and the decision you and your husband had to make.

Your husband needs to say something to her, how unbelievebly rude. How do you say that to someone? Throughts and prayers your way…. You will beat this and have healthy Children!

Post # 23
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138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsRs:  I’m so sorry, my heart aches for you. It’s unfair that you have to go through this when you should be enjoying this time in your life. It’s also unfair that your Mother-In-Law is a wretched human being that you are bound to by marriage. She is obviously clueless and that has nothing to do with you. You are a strong person and you will get through this with the support of those people in your life that are not complete social idiots. Sending you hugs through the interweb.

Post # 24
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3380 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@angelicd77:  OP should write it in pretty script in a nice card and send it over.

Post # 25
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717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I don’t care who it is, you do NOT let stupid people invade your peace. You’re going through enough. It goes without saying that everyone on here is so sorry you have to go through this, but before you abort, have you spoken to your doctors at length about what may be able to be done to preserve the pregnancy? If the answer is nothing, then you guys are making the right decision. I’m completely against abortion, EXCEPT in cases like this. This isn’t your doing. You need to save your life so that you can be a mommy later. Anyone who can’t see that… I’m sorry, is an ass.

However, I will tell you the same thing I told my friend who was recently diagnosed with Stage 3 Hodgkins (in her breast as well). Think about freezing your eggs. You may be infertile after treatment, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t be able to carry OR have your own biological children using a surrogate. I’m a mom. My husband adopted his son at birth with his ex wife. There is no greater joy than watching your kids grow up. You’ll have a chance at that, but as they say, there’s more than one way to skin a cat.

Besides… labor pains suck! Good luck with your treatments

Post # 26
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946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Wow, that is such an ugly thing to say.  Even if it was a gut reaction or she meant well, any sound person would quickly realize that it sounded terrible and would apologize.  The fact that she is trying to defend what she said is ridiculous.

I’m very sorry that you have to deal with this on top of everything.  I will you well.

Post # 27
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4231 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t know if I could ever forgive someone for saying something so cruel. 

I am so very sorry you are going through this. I wish I could say something productive to take the sting out of that womans words. 

No one else can ever speak for your intentions or understand your position. I truly wish you luck and strength in this. 

Post # 28
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3380 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsPanda99:  I give alot of props to OP: I would have lost my shit on her. My mind is blown and my faith in humanity shot for the day.

Post # 29
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@badabing88:  100%!!! I could make a template!!!

Post # 30
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2354 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsRs:  I am so sorry you are going through this. There are no words for what you must be feeling right now. Please stay strong and focus all your energy on getting better! This woman would get the absolute fuck:ng shit yelled out of her if she said something like that to me or someone I love.  Wishing you all the best & a quick recovery. 

Post # 31
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7813 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@badabing88:  Oh, big time. I wouldn’t have gotten up and calmly left. I would have LOST MY SHIT on that bitch. Even if you think something so rude, at least have the decency to keep it to yourself. Who says that?! :-

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