(Closed) NWR: 'It's probably a good thing that you have to abort.'

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
Member
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would never speak to her again. What a horrible thing to say! I am so sorry 

Post # 48
Member
2925 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I cannot believe she actually said that… it blows my mind. I am so sorry for what you’re going through, OP. I am glad you do have tons of support elsewhere. Stay strong!

Post # 49
Member
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@badabing88:  As much as I hate that word, your use of it is spot on! Couldn’t have said it better myself.

Post # 50
Member
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsRs:  Oh. My. Gosh. Sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this!!

I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you are going through, without having to deal with something like that from your MIL! If it had been me, it would have taken all my power not to haul off and smack her one for saying something so incredibly insensitive. Regardless of what her views are on breastfeeding, they should not be pushed on to you, and certainly not when you are in such a difficult place.

I say good for you for ignoring her, keep it up. Let her live with what her actions and words have done to her relationship with you and her son.

Big hugs to you, thinking of you and your family. You WILL get through this!

Post # 51
Member
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@MrsRs:  I know I’m not really saying anything that hasn’t already been said…. but fuck her. What the hell is wrong with this lady?!?!! Just forget about her for now, maybe Fiance can call her and let her know that you really need some space. Seriously I can’t even imagine what you’re going through right now, the absolute last thing you need is another stressor.

You need to focus on you, and getting through all this awful business. You CAN and WILL get through this, and it will help if you’re surrounded by as much love and positivity as you can get. Don’t even give this woman another thought, she clearly has shit for brains. When you’re feeling better, and if you’re up to it, you can decide if you want to rebuild a relationship with her. *hugs* 

Post # 52
Member
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsRs:  oh honey that is awful, I am so sorry.  Your Mother-In-Law is totally ignorant.

Post # 53
Member
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

If the comment had been, “It’s probably a good thing you have to abort,” to a DEGREE, I can cut some slack. It can be incredibly awkward and uncomfortable when you hear dreadful news about someone’s health, and awkward people may scramble to think of a way to put a positive spin on it (although, really, you can’t). But her comments that it’s because of breastfeeding are totally inexcusable. More than that, she didn’t fall over herself to apologize after realizing how the comment was interpreted.

Plenty of healthy babies grow into healthy adults regardless of breastfeeding. Just because you couldn’t breastfeed a child doesn’t mean you couldn’t have a healthy, happy child in the future.

I am sorry that you are in this position – I hope that you are surrounded by plenty of others who will give you the help and support you need at this time.

Post # 54
Member
5708 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

There is not a lot that makes me give an audible “omg” at work when I read Wedding Bee, but this definitely got one. I cannot beliueve your Mother-In-Law said that. It would have been different had she said it and then called and said that wasn’t how she meant it, but it seems pretty flipping clear that she meant it the horrible way she said it.

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Sending hugs, prayers, and much love your way.

Post # 55
Member
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn

Wow, I don’t know how people can be so cruel. I am so sorry you are having to go through this terrible time. You have made a very hard decision, I cannot even imagine having to do that. I hope aside from this terrible person that you have alot of love and support around you. Stay strong!

Post # 56
Member
2953 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsRs:  Your Mother-In-Law is a fuckhead. How noble of her to be concerned with an unborn being yet not show the same empathy toward a suffering adult married to her grown child. She’s a real piece of work.

Post # 58
Member
782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What a stupid and cruel thing to say. OP, I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. Please don’t let your insane Mother-In-Law make you feel bad. She does not deserve to be in your lives after that comment. I’ll be sending positive thoughts your way! *hugs*

Post # 59
Member
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

WOW to your Mother-In-Law I just have no words for how offensive she was. I was a preemie and had to be formula fed because my mother never lactated. I don’t think it has had any impact on my life really. I’m well above average in intelligence, got National Merit scholarships, graduated cum laude from a top school in my field, and now as a young scientist I’m on the verge of a major break through. I’d say I’ve been darn successful so far without a drop of breast milk. I think choosing to wait to be a mother until you are healthy proves that you do indeed have the best interests of your future children at heart.

Good luck in your future battle. I hope someday you can be healthy with a beautiful family.

The topic ‘NWR: 'It's probably a good thing that you have to abort.'’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors