(Closed) NWR: Just as much hate towards skinny girls as there is towards fuller figured.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree. I really dislike the posts where they talk abotu how those skinny models, aren;t ” real” figures. While I do know they are photoshopped, many women are really skinny in real life. It sucks that people have to talk down different shapes, when all shapes are beautiful.

Post # 4
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665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with you ladies, I did every bride is beautiful in their gown. I have never seen an ugly bride. There was thread recently that talked about this but I guests people forget.

Post # 5
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3368 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m agreeing~ THANK YOU to heyitssamyrae for being brave enough to post this.  I’ve dealt with this my entire life (I commented on the “skinny model” thread as well) and the hatred I’ve recieved in public seems almost acceptable to others, b/c the assumption is that I want to be this thin, that I starve myself or otherwise harm myself to be this thin, and that I have no right to complain.  I didn’t develop hips or a butt or boobs and no matter how much I eat, I am never going to have them.  I think we all need to stop assuming and start looking beyond the superficial.   

Post # 6
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3522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’ve been on both sides of the issue, and both sides suck equally. I was super, super-skinny all the way up until I was about 21, at which point my thyroid royally crapped out on me and I gained 25 lbs seemingly overnight. Being called “skinny” isn’t really hurtful; it’s the assumption that there is something WRONG with you that really hurts. And now that I’m on the curvier side of things, I can tell you that it hurts to have people assume heavier = unhealthy. My point is, assumptions are present on both sides, and they hurt equally (though I’d rather be called skinny than be called fat, if we’re being 100% honest). I wish people would stop putting so much weight–no pun intended–on the numbers on the scale or what a woman’s body looks like. Every body shape, size, and type is beautiful, and no one should be made to feel bad–or make others feel bad–for it. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I can absolutely relate.

I’ve been underweight almost my entire life. Still working on gaining weight for the wedding, but trying to make sure I’m doing it for *me,* not because the rest of the world looks at me and sees my body as not normal, not big enough, not good enough. I liked the way my body looked better when I weighed about 15 pounds more than I do now, and I felt much more comfortable and confident, so that’s why I’m trying to get back there.

It really irks me when people make comments about thin women not being “real” women. It gave me a major inferiority complex in my pre-and-teen years. Though I don’t condone women trying to force themselves to be unnaturally thin, I think it’s important for people to realize that for a lot of women, “abnormally” thin IS natural for their body type. And they are often made to feel just as unaccepted as women on the other end of the spectrum who are overweight. Perhaps even moreso, since I would argue that the majority of people are either at an average-looking healthy weight, or are overweight. Being in the minority (underweight or appearing to be underweight) makes people judge you more I think.

Post # 8
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1429 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree. It does suck to be called any derogatory name.

I have been both stick thin and now fat. I remember being called a twig, bony, flat chested ect and being told I could blow away on a breeze.

My mom used to tell me that my face could cut glass and I should gain weight in it. :/

but I have to say…I would love to be stick thin again no matter what ppl called me cuz either way I’ll have a label and I know from being both I’d rather be thought of/told I was sickly thin than a fat pig.

In the end yes ppl should be more sensitive to others and not call names. Unfortunately this will never change. I’s just the way society is.

Post # 11
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs Grape: Oh man, can I relate to you on the thyroid problems… it’s been a super tough road.  I also feel bad for people that want to (advised by a doctor to) but can’t gain a pound even by trying to, my godmother cannot gain weight and I know she has a hardship dealing with it. She’s even had tons of milkshakes and other nonfriendly for the waist treats and not even a pound gained. It’s a no win situation for both sides most of the time.

Post # 12
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2951 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@agirlwithdreams7: this is me exactly. i still get comments on a daily basis about it. Shut up already…. i look in the mirror everyday, i know im skinny, i cant help it lmao. alot of ppl dont understand that being called “skinny”names like that is just as hurtful. thanks for posting this!

 

Post # 13
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3522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Mrs.Firefly1: It’s damn depressing. I used to be one of those “eat anything and not gain a pound” girls, and now I look at food and gain weight, it seems. 

Post # 14
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

i am a fuller figured lady, i don’t really see people for their size, admitidly i sometimes think, i wish i had her figure, but that said i couldn’t care less what a stranger or even fellow bee thought of my weight, my fi, family and friends love me just the way i am, i was looking through a posts of everyones dresses earlier i just saw beautiful dresses and beautiful brides. it is a shame people are critisied for the way they look, but most of it in my opinon is jelousy, wanting something we don’t have whether that be a bigger bust, flater stomach, curvy bottom, anything bigger or smaller, but i would never critisize anyone, for the way the look. we are all on this site for one reason to share our weddings with each other, we should keep it that way, it’s a stressful enough time we are all having why make it worse for each other 

 

good post and i agree well done for being brave enought to post it 

Post # 15
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I agree no one should be picked on for their size, but as a full figured gal, society definitely seems to accept the thinner women before the bigger women. Or at least openly mock them less. I don’t get the obsession either way!

Post # 16
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1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@agirlwithdreams7: I totally agree with what you said.  Those models are people too- but sometimes they really are photoshopped to an unrealistic proportion and that is very frustrating to see! It looks like they’re 6’9 with double D’s and perfect hips and waist lines!! That’s what kills me!

I think people lash out and attack those different from themselves when they’re insecure, it’s sad.  It also sucks that there are girls who really are anorexic and bulimic making all the other thin women look bad.  Sorry you have to go through that, I’m sorry for everyone who gets judged based on appearance for that matter. 

I just love me some bees, all sizes and shapes <3

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