(Closed) NWR: MIL took *my* child to a clinic!

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Frankly I’m surprised they saw her without parental consent. You have a right to be pissed. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

WTF? That is bizarre. I would call the clinic and ask why they saw a patient without your consent in the first place. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I would ask to have a conversation with her about this privately without your child present.  Tell her calmly but firmly that she is not to pursue medical care for your daughter without your prior approval, except in a severe emergency.  If such am emergency were to arise, she is to contact you immediately.  This is a boundary that needs to be established, and your husband needs to back you up on it.  If she has any concerns about your child, she needs to bring them up to you and/or your husband.  I think you have a right to be angry about this.  However, I would not just haul off and scream at her, because you dont want to further damage a relationship that is going to be lifelong.  It would also be appropriate to mention that you were hurt by the fact that her actions make it seem that she is questioning your parenting skills.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

That is unacceptable and I hope your hubby handles her. But did something happen recently that you can think of that would drive her to do this? Is she typically anxiety prone or something? The audacity. Sorry Bee. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah, I’d be pissed. She wouldn’t be watching my child again any time soon.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I agree that you should be pissed, and I think your DH should talk to her about it.

And although, yes technically the clinic should not have seen your daughter without your permission, I’m not surprised that they did.  I have taken my grandchildren to the doctors office multiple times (with my daughter’s knowledge — usually just doing a favor for her), and no one has ever questioned it.  I bet the clinic just thought she was acting on your behalf.  Or that she had custody for some other reason.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

She would never be left alone with my child again.  EVER.  And I would make sure she knew the reason why.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I thought this was going to be a story about how your kid was sick and your Mother-In-Law had her for the day or something and took her to the doctor… but that wasn’t at all what happened and you have every right to be mad. Let her have it!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Still, it’s really weird to do that. Did they even have her medical history? Or allergies, etc? This is just so strange.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

That sounds… really messed up. She is not your child’s mother and has no right to interfere. I would permanently revoke any priveledge of hers to be alone with your child until the kid is older and big enough to tell her to bugger off.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

 

This is so bizarre. Did she think something had happened to her? Did your daughter tell her something?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Wow. I have nothing to add. So sorry. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

No. Absolutely not.

You need to get the name of that clinic and see why on earth they would see your child without your or your husbands consent.

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