(Closed) NWR: Misophonia?

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Me! Chewing/crunching and typing drive me absolutely nuts! I have to leave the room if someone else is eating and I’m not (doesn’t bother me as much if I’m eating or chewing). I only recently found out it was actually a ‘thing’ – I thought I was just weird. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This might sound odd, but the sound that’s made when people rub their hands together with soap really bothers me. It’s worse than nails on a chalkboard to me!!!!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Yes! Snapping not only infuriates me, but it also kind of scares me. I have no idea why. All of my friends know haha and I even have one friend who stopped snapping becasue he knows how much it bothers me. Brains are so funky sometimes 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Does your misophonia affect your lives greatly? I am so frustrated with FI’s misophonia. It prevents us from socializing and can cause tension between us when he reacts. Its awful. Do you have advice?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@jny1179:  Thank you for getting back to me 🙂

Yes, FI’s misophonia is really bad. He does the same as you: wears earplugs at night, earbuds for music or podcasts at work when he can. 

What sets him off the most is the sound of dogs barking. I’m a dog person, who likes other dog people, so of course all my friends have dogs. Because of this, Fiance never goes with me to see my friends (who naturally are all couples) so I wind up either being the awkward third wheel (I swear I have a man! You just never see him! I swear he exists!) or just not going at all.

What also gets him is the sound of the TV if it’s not in the same room as he is. If his father is downstairs watching TV and Fiance can hear it, he gets grumpy. If his dad is snoring, I will BARELY be able to hear it, but Fiance describes it as a spike going through his head. 

I often feel like the bad guy because I just get so uncomfortable with him when he reacts. I love him dearly and will make it work and I’m getting used to his reactions, but they still frusterate me.  I’m not sure the point of this post other than to vent, I guess. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yep, me too! I was so relieved when I read about this, I had no idea that it had a name.

My main annoyances are chewing, flicking nails, biting nails (I can hear a sort of wet, squishy sound and it drives me crazy), and noise from other people’s headphones/phone conversations. This last one is so bad that I’ll sometimes have to block one ear when I’m on public transport otherwise I feel like I won’t be able to stop myself from yelling at the person to keep it down. My Fiance knows about it, but can’t really do much to change his behaviour so he’s gotten used to me blocking my ears or leaving the room for a bit to calm down.

I’ve also got anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder so maybe it’s related to that.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jny1179:  Oh my god, the glaring! I do that too and my Fiance is so worried I’m going to get my face punched in one day from glaring at people on public transport.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Omgbunnies:  Lol, I am your Fiance.  At least for TV and dogs, other than that most things don’t bother me though I do tend to prefer quiet. Dogs barking drive me nuts, I don’t even like the sound of the TV most of the time especially when I’m in the same room (luckily Darling Husband doesn’t watch TV).  I’ve never actually dated anyone who did watch more than occassional TV and the interesting part is it’s not like I found out a guy watched a lot of TV and then didn’t date him, more like I just somehow picked guys who’s personalities made them not like sitting in front of the TV. lol

Darling Husband doesn’t seem to care in the least.  If we go to my friends who have the TV on all the time and a barking dog, he knows I won’t want to stay very long, and will even say things like “you look like you’re ready to get home” or whatnot.  He’s more than welcome to go see his friends who have dogs and can’t live without the TV on all he wantss.  It has never seemed like an issue, I’m perfectly happy to stay home and not go where I’m just going to get irritated and edgy.  If there’s something important to him or friends/family, I’ll go and just deal with it and make the best of it.  I don’t feel like it effects our social life because we both do what makes us happy and comfortable, and don’t feel like the other has to be there though we like it when they are :).

Does your Fiance feel like it interferes with socializing for him?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsTangerine:  does Fiance rhink it interferes… Well, its hard to say. Sometimes he wishes he could go out with friends and stuff, but hes also always willing to fill that need up with video games. I guess its mostly me who’s bothered. I just hate feeling like the third wheel.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Omgbunnies:  Lol, I’m a big video game fan, more than Darling Husband, but I’m also a “happy hermit” as I like to call it.

But if it does bother him I hope he finds a solution.  Caring friends, how to deal, etc.  I’m not above asking friends to turn down/off the TV or meet somewhere quiet.  Either it happens or doesn’t, they are still my friends I just won’t hang out there much, and they are welcome to come over and some do a lot. 

And much as I’d like it if dogs didn’t bark, they do bark, as illogical as it usually is, it’s what they do (attention, something like a car outside the yard, etc).  So same thing, I’ll avoid the dogs and owners (alone) are welcome at my house.  Since I have a cat it makes a great excuse why no dogs here lol.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just watched the episode of Good Morning America and 20/20 and am SOOOO relieved to see that this is a real disorder!

I’ve been suffering from this since I was about 9 years old.  I would get SO angry at the way my Dad smacked his mouth, ate, and even breathed.

This eventually developed into a hatred of all mouth noises (including coughing and clearing of the throat).

I’ve always thought it was anxiety related.  My Husband gets really upset when I have panic attacks when he eats chips or swallows his coffee too loudly.  But i get so enraged!  I saw that Kelly Ripa has it!  It made me feel so much better when she was talking about having to leave the room when her Husband eats a peach.

I haven’t been to the movie theatre in four years because i can’t stand to hear people eat popcorn, candy or even open the bag their candy is in.  

 

I just really hope this becomes more well known and there will eventually be a treatment for it!

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