NWR: Mom Stopped Talking to Me (Politically Related Long Vent)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 181
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Deleted because it was a response to ignorance and not to OP. 

 

Post # 182
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

malyschae :  I know how you feel when it comes to your family stepping away from you, especially because of your spouse. It’s extremely difficult and unbelievably painful.

I would also recommend calling her and asking why she’s so upset. As a female person of color with immigrant parents and family members who live in America, after the election I was not only devastated, I became afraid. My father wears a turban because of our religion (not Muslim) and I’m afraid for his safety. Please understand those of us who were against a Trump presidency didn’t just find him distasteful, we fear he will harm several communities in this country. Perhaps it would be good to explain that to your husband as well, see if they can come to some form of understanding. But also please realize your mother may never be able to forgive your husband. I’m sure he is a welcoming and kind person and didn’t vote for Trump BECAUSE of his racist/sexist policies, but he decided that they weren’t dealbreakers. For many people in this country, and your mother it seems, that is an extremely hard truth to swallow. I hope you and your family find ways to mend your relationships.

Post # 183
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Malyschae, please come back and give us an update.  Has anything improved? Has mom calmed down?  Hoping all this was a short-lived glitch in your relationship.  Emotions were running really high there for a while and I’m hoping things are calming down.  

Post # 185
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So everything was just swept under the rug?

How was Thanksgiving?

How is your DH?

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