- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I’ve posted before about my best friend who is going through a divorce and dating a not so great guy. I’ve stayed out of it because even if I don’t like her boyfriend, she’s still my friend. I’ve kept my mouth shut about everything except when she asks me about it and she knows that I don’t like the guy, but that’s not the point of this post.
Lately, her and the guy have been having some trouble. He’s been hanging out with another girl a lot and they’ve been fighting a good bit about the fact that he made a comment about “getting some” (and other sexual remarks) while he is in front of his friends (you know, like high school boys-this guy is 26). Because of this and the fighting she’s been doing with her ex husband, I invited her to come stay at my house last weekend for some girl time. We went out to eat, did a little shopping and saw a movie, things were good and she seemed to be feeling better. The morning she left I noticed burns on her arms and on her legs. I said asked her how she got them and she just broke down and told me she’d been burning herself with cigarettes because she was so tired of fighting with her ex and with her boyfriend. She also said that it’s guilt, because she really doesn’t know if she still loves her ex enough to try to make things work and becaue she’s been telling her boyfriend that she loves him even though she knows she doesn’t. She’s also really upset because she walked out on her job after a heated fight with her boyfriend. She told me that she wasn’t really sure why she burned herself and if she’d ever do it again, but I could tell that some of the burns were older than others. We talked a little about what was going on, but eventually she just shut down, refused to talk about it anymore and told me she wanted to go. That was almost a week ago and she hasn’t returned any of my calls or texts since then.
As I said before, I’ve been keeping my mouth shut about her relationships because it’s not my relationship but now that I know this I don’t know what I’m supposed to say or what I can say. I’ve been worried about her since she started dating this guy because of the way he is and the way he is with her, but now I’m more than concerned about what’s going on with her.
I’m at a loss. I’ve never had a friend in this situation before and it’s upsetting that I don’t know what to say to her.