(Closed) NWR: My MIL is making fun of my mom!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

In my experience, people make fun of others to make themselves feel superior or better in some way.  If this were my Mother-In-Law and my mom, I would probably feel a little bad for my Mother-In-Law that she feels for some reason that she has to make fun of my mom in order to give herself a boost.  I would not mention it and try to let it roll off my back if it happens again.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Personally, I would be pissed. NO ONE disses Mama! But I would not say anything about it to Mother or Mother-In-Law. I would however, file this in my memory banks and be a tad more careful in what I say and do.

Post # 6
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Ryansgirl:  I agree, it is really odd!  I would definitely be thinking, hey that’s my mom you are talkin’ about!  But I just feel like in the long run it’s her problem and not worth bringing up. 

Post # 8
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3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would be ticked off too.  I’d let it slide for now, but if she did it again I’d say something.

Post # 8
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824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

never mind – posted by mistake 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I’m the one who is lousy with directions and always manages to get lost- and I get plenty of good natured teasing about it and it doesn’t bother me a bit. But I suspect you think MIL’s teasing is not so good natured….maybe a bit catty & the type to put others down. I’d say nothing for now- because your mom being late/ getting lost  is a bit odd for Mother-In-Law to bring up to people who don’t even know her but it doesn’t really fall into the low-blow/ nasty category- BUT I’d keep an eye on her on this issue & if it escalates then you or your husband definitely need to step & in speak up.

Now in your sister’s place, why is she getting you all riled up via text drama but doing nothing her own sweet self? That’s her mom too that her co-worker/ your Mother-In-Law was talking about- I would have been speaking up with ” Yes our mom had a little trouble with directions, but she’s so sweet and sunny and warm [or whatever adjectives suit your mom] that I’m sure she’d feel badly if she knew this was still bothering you” That puts your MIL/ sister’s co-worker in her place by making her look like the petty one.

As to why I’m saying not to react now but to be alert to future behavour, while at the same time saying your sister could have reacted- it’s because this type of thing would have been easier to deal with in-the-moment in a few sentences rather than having it be a choice between silence or planning to confront.

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