Post # 1
Sorry in advance, I just really need to vent! My sister has been driving me nuts lately and after today, I just don’t even know what to say to her anymore!
So she celebrated her 21st birthday this week and being the nice older sister I am, I offered to throw her a birthday party at my house (she still lives at home with our parents) and she could invite anyone she wanted. She was really excited about this so my Fiance and I got up super early this morning before work and we cleaned the entire house so that it was perfect for her friends and we went out and bought all kinds of snacks and pop etc. She was also complaining how my mom didn’t give her a cake so we baked one for her as a surprise.
Well her and her friends (20 of them) were supposed to start showing up around 8. At 7 she texts me and says “Actually one of my other friends is having people over so I think we’re all just going to go there instead if you don’t mind. Hope you didn’t have anything planned”.
Seriously?! What person offers to throw a party and hasn’t done or planned a single thing an hour before the party is supposed to start? I am soo upset right now. She does this all the time, she never thinks of anyone but herself but this is pretty bad. I’m tempted to just hand her the receipt for all the food and tell her she has to pay me back.
This is just another thing to add to the list of all the drama she has caused during the past year of wedding planning. I don’t know how much more I can take of it!
Thanks for letting me vent!
Post # 3
I would say “well what am I supposed to do with all this food/soda/your surprise cake?” She’s your sister so you should be able to be open with her and let her know how you feel. I’m sorry she’s acting so selfish when you offered to throw her a party! 🙁
Post # 4
I am sorry she wasn’t more considerate of your feelings :-(. People, unfortunately, do not always take into account how their actions will effect those around them. I think this shows what a great big sis you are though! Hopefully she will come to appreciate that with time.
Post # 5
Wow, that is crazy! I would be super upset too. That is so not cool. I would just tell her exactly what you had planned and how much you spent. You guys went way out of your way to throw her an awesome party. I would definitely tell her how you feel. Good luck to you!
Post # 6
I can totally relate to sister drama. My sister just turned 22 and I keep on telling myself that she will grow out of her self-centered, selfish ways. Things have been so bad between us that I not having bridesmaids because I don’t want her in my bridal party. You definitely should let her know how much effort you put into her party and how much she upset you. I guess just keep on telling yourself that she will grow out of it.
Post # 7
@summerbride12: Sorry, that sucks! 🙁 At least you have a clean house out of the whole debacle and you can eat your favorite of the snacks you bought. *being optimistic*
I’d call her out on it, but maybe not today because it’s her birthday and you’re obviously very considerate. She needs to hear how upset you are though, you guys put thought and effort into this and she needs to apologize and realize how her actions were hurtful and selfish.
Post # 8
I’m sorry your sister is being so selfish! My sister and I have always been superclose, and this is her senior year of college, so she is 22. I feel like this is the farthest apart we’ve been in our relationship, but we are also at VERY different stages of life. I think back to being that age and remember how much my life revolved around friends… but I also always made time for family. I think that it’s hard for girls at that age to relate to us old ladies in the real world, even though it wasn’t TOO long ago that we were celebrating our 21st birthday. You are such a great sister to put all that effort into throwing a party and you should make sure you knows the inconvenience she caused. I find that being honest is the best thing you can do. My sister came to live in DC (where I live) one summer to work as a nanny. I was working and going to grad school, and didn’t have a whole lot of time during the week to do anything. I made an effort to meet her for dinner or stop over to see her, but I honestly don’t think it was enough. She left every weekend to see her boyfriend, and I felt like a shmuck for not spending enough time with her (she wanted to shop, go out, drink), but when I was around on the weekends she would go back home. I was living with my Fiance at the time, and she was a live-in nanny. I don’t think she understood how much work teaching AND taking graduate level classes can be.
Fast forward to a few years later, she came to town again for a friend’s birthday. The first night she had planned on staying at my house. I had to work in the morning (I have to be at work at 7:30…) and she called around 11 to say her friend’s didn’t want to drop her off because “they just wanted to get started” and asked if I could come and ger her from her friend’s house. I had to say no, given there was a snow storm and I was already in bed. The next night, after I left work early to take her out to lunch and shopping, she invited my Fiance and I to dinner, and then uninvited us because it was in a private room. I said no big deal, but we’d love to meet you out later in the night. They didn’t go out til much later, after we had already grabbed dinner with a friend and waited around for an extra hour to try and meet up. We never did meet up, I also invited her to lunch the next day w/ FI’s family and to do a little shopping. After three phone calls (lunch wasn’t til 1!!) I finally woke her up… We went to lunch, but she couldn’t get back to her friend’s fast enough…. she also needed a nap to recover from the pervious night before she did it all over again. Not a big deal, but kinda brings everything full circle. I decided not to travel to sibs weekend at her college a few weeks later, as I really didn’t want to go party like I was in college at my age, and asked if we could plan another weekend where we can spend quality time. I cannot wait until we are back in the same stage of life and can become closer again!
Post # 9
Sorry I wrote a lot! I just didn’t know other ladies had these issues with their 21-22 year old baby sisters!