(Closed) NWR: Naturally Wavy/Curly Headed Bees- Help me with my hair!

posted 4 years ago in Beauty
Post # 2
1400 posts
Bumble bee

I have really naturally curly hair. I went through the same thing as you where I tried to kill the curl before deciding to embrace it and just go for a beautiful mane. I’m still working out the kinks in my hair care routine, but I’ve been really happy with what I have been doing so far.

I also noticed that anti frizz products didn’t really work. I decided to try things that are specifically marketed towards curls, not towards anti frizz. I went with Herbal Essences Totally Twisted line. Partially because it seemed to work and partially because I liked the way it smelled. Be prepared that curly hair products are not as common in stores as any of the other types. You might have to check a few places or try amazon.

I use just the shampoo and conditioner and the mousse. I actually use the “tousle me softly” mousse because it has a softer hold than the “totally twisted” one and I wanted to keep my hair from getting too ‘crunchy’ with product.

I wash my hair every 2-3 days. I just give it a good wash and condition. Then I dry it so it’s mostly dry and apply the mousse just to the top layer of my hair. Hair exposed to wind and the environment gets frizzier than the hair at the nape of your neck. This is because it’s messed up and touched more. Because of this I don’t feel it necessary to put mousse on the bottom layers of hair. After adding the mousse and giving my hair a good shake to make sure it’s not pancaking on the top of my head I let it air dry. Air drying with hair down typically gives me a more wild look with much more volume. The curls are still nicely defined though. If I want a slightly less ‘full’ look I airdry my hair while it’s up in a loose braid. This takes much longer (I often do it overnight), but it allows the hair to be trained to stick together more.

A couple other tips. Don’t brush your hair! I only brush it when I’m washing it. Typically I lather it with conditioner so that it’s slick and the brush doesn’t break the hair (hair is more fragile while wet) and then brushthe conditioner through my hair. Once I wash out the conditioner I don’t use the brush until the next time I wash my hair. Brushing your hair when it’s dry will break up the curls and increase frizz. Try not to touch your hair too often. I know it’s tempting to play with it (and I play with my hair a lot), but the more you touch your hair the frizzier it will get. This is because you are separating the hairs that make up a curl.

Hope this helped a bit!

Post # 3
26 posts

When I first started to embrace my curls (after like 12 years of relaxing it and straightening it) the first thing I did was stop using sulfate based shampoos and started using a t-shirt instead of a towel to dry my hair. Just those two changes and it was night and day. I also joined the forum on NaturallyCurly. The ladies there were life savers when it came to tips and advice. I suggest that you check that site out since it has a lot of product/routine information depending on hair type. At the end if the day it will be trial and error though to find what works for you. 

Post # 5
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

The problem with curly hair advice is that everyone’s hair is so different, so what works for me may not work best for you! That being said, I’m quite curly (about 3A/3B on the NaturallyCurly scale) and here’s my routine.

I wash my hair every other day or every 2 days. This is one thing that a lot of curly haired folks and I differ on, but mine is actually quite fine, so it’s what works for me. I only use sulfate free shampoos and conditioners, and I rotate them somewhat frequently. I recently started using the SheaMoisture brand and I really like it so far! After washing, I dry my hair with a cotton t-shirt and brush out the tangles while still wet with a tangle teezer. I HIGHLY recommend the tangle teezer!! They advertise it a lot for little kids because it won’t pull or snag on knots, but they’re honestly the best. Cuts through everything like butter.

After brushing and shaking it out, I have three steps for my product application. I do leave in conditioner first. I use a brand called African Pride Olive Miracle and I like it, but I’ve honestly used lots of leave in conditioners with very similar results, so follow your heart on that one, haha. I only apply a very light amount, mostly on my ends, because my hair is prone to being weighed down. The next step is mousse, which a lot of people don’t like, but honestly, I think it really really makes the difference for my hair. I sometimes try and go without it for a while but I always have worse hair when I do. I only use the Herbal Essences mousse, the “Totally Twisted” kind. It’s my holy grail mousse and it makes everything so much more defined. They have a kind that’s more for wavy hair, if you want to try. I do a very small amount of this as well all over. My last step is putting a little argan oil on my ends. As I apply my products, I’m constantly scrunching my curls to get them into place. Then, and this is always the hardest part for me, I let them air dry and try my best not to touch them, since touching creates frizz. I’m the worst about it, though- I’m a hair twirler and like to run my hands through it a lot. 

On days I don’t wash, my hair is up in a bun/pony 99% of the time. I sometimes try and “refresh” it with water and a little extra leave in conditioner, but it honestly never looks all that great unless I’ve managed to sleep in such a way that it still looks pretty good from the day before and not flattened out. I’m a morning shower kind of gal, so by that point it usually doesn’t, haha. I will also usually do a clarifying wash every few weeks or whenever I notice it looking dull/weighted with basic old clarifying shampoo (the only time I use sulfates) and Aussie deep conditioner, then I just comb, scrunch, and dry without applying any product to help with the build up. 

Anyways, if you’ve made it this far, hope some of the things in my routine help! My biggest suggestions are to ditch sulfates and experiment with a lot of products to find what works. I also second the suggestion of going to NaturallyCurly, and I strongly recommend finding a good stylist who really knows curly/wavy hair when it’s time for a cut. They make all the difference!

I edited this just to add that also, sometimes with curly/wavy hair frizz is just an inevitability, especially in the summer or when it’s windy. Sometimes you just gotta embrace it and know that you look super hot regardless! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I really reccomend the deva curl products.  You may have to play around a little bit to find the right combo for your hair, but between switching to all deva products and a good hair cut, my hair is finally in awesome shape.  I have wavy/curly hair that was super dry and dull,  now it is bouncy, shiny, and moisturized. Definitely a complete turnaround for me, hair wise !

Post # 8
2144 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m not sure how you guys can wash your hair every other day. for me its every day because there is so much product in it. My hair is wavy and I need to put Deva curl in it. Its the only thing that actually makes my curls stand out.  


Post # 9
371 posts
Helper bee

I have crazy frizzy hair, and I hate it. I straighten mine every day. I use Chi shine spray, but instead of finishing my hair with it I use t as I’m flat ironing, kind of like a heat protectant. 

I also get a Brazilian blowout every summer. That helps a ton. 

Post # 10
4995 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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smalltownbigworld :   My tip to managing curl is to wash and condition your hair as normal. Once you’ve taken a bit of the dampness out of your  wet hair with a towel brush it with a wide toothed comb to get the knots out, put your part and fringe in the right place, crunch through a bit of mousse designed for curly hair and let it air dry naturally. Don’t ever brush your hair dry…it won’t end well and it will just give you 90s country and western singer hair!! 

A good cut by a hairdresser who understands curly hair is a must. Most hairdressers think less layers is better for curly hair. Mine looks best with multiple layers. It encourages curl better because my curl isn’t a naturally tight curl. its more of a  tight wave if that makes sense….

I don’t recommend particular products because their effectiveness I’d entirely dependent on your type of hair. You just need to keep trying different ones until you find what works for you.

Large sized hot rollers are also great to style with especially if your hair is more wavy than curly. They work with your curl to find a nice curl and great volume.

Wishing you a lifetime of great hair days!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 11
1885 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I have naturally wavy hair that is long and thick. My hair routine is to wash (every 2 days), then use leave-in conditioner after my shower (Miss Jessie, Shea Moisture, and Renpure are brands I like). I only brush my hair like 1x a week, but if I do brush, it’s when my hair is wet.

Then I use a blow dryer just to blast my scalp and dry my hair very slightly. I spray in heat-protectant/fast dry spray. Then let air dry the rest of the way. I usually wear my hair half-up, half-down using a claw clip.

Post # 12
1928 posts
Buzzing bee

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smalltownbigworld :  Curious to see how it’s going with your hair! ๐Ÿ˜€ I always thought my hair was wavy until I started the Curly Girl Method (as PP mentioned), and now my hair is curly! The Curly Girl Method is awesome! It basically revolves around getting rid of sulfates/silicones from your products.

1. Wash your hair with a shampoo that has sulfates (but NO silicones), to wash out the silicones one last time, then put it away forever.

2. Get a “low-poo” – basically a shampoo with no sulfates or silicones in it

3. Get a conditioner with NO silicone in it 

Here’s my routine:

1. I shampoo (no sulfate/silicone) every other day, since my hair is fine and is a mix of wavy/curly

2. On the days I don’t shampoo, I co-wash (basically take conditioner and rub it into my scalp. It has a small amount of cleanser in it, so it does get my hair feeling clean, without stripping natural oils)

3. I rinse out MOST of my conditioner, but leave some in

4. I get out of the shower, flip my hair upside down, and scrunch in some leave-in conditioner , and then scrunch in some gel

and that’s it ๐Ÿ˜€ 


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