(Closed) NWR: Need some support- How to deal with mother, says “I need God in my heart”

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

“I wish you and I communicated as often and God and I do” how about that

Post # 4
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am so, so sorry you have to deal with this. ((HUGS))

You could add her email address to your spam folder, so then you won’t even see if she sends you another email. Or block her completely

Post # 5
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@cbee: I can give you hugs and happy birthday wishes.

Her behavior is just…eerie to me. I don’t know why this is all she has to say to you. I’m sorry she is treating you this way.

 

Post # 6
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5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

No advice other than to ignore her but “I will pray for you” has to be the most passive aggressive line in the english language.

Post # 8
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7408 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

“God and I are good… but I will pray for you!”

Post # 9
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@cbee: NO problem!! And Also forgot wish you a Happy birthday!!!

Post # 12
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hugs!!!!  Sorry your mom is a jerk.  That is such a transparently manipulative thing to say. 

I hope that you have an AWESOME birthday despite her bitterness. Here’s a cake for you!

Post # 13
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1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Happy Birthday!

My aunt is like this, even to the point of using her idea of God as an excuse to be unhappy (“if God wanted me to be happy, he would do x, y, z”).  As I got older, she became more agressive with her comments, cards, etc.  Having someone say “I’ll pray for you”, “God loves you, even you though you keep doing x, y, z” which I think is MEANT to be somehow comforting, is really just so freaking passive agressive.

The only advice I have (and I know that this is my aunt, and not my mom…which would be much more difficult to deal with) is to realise that this is who she is and only you can make the choice to let her comments bother you.  When I finally figured out that she was unstable and a sad person, I felt much less anger and a lot more pity.  This really helped me get through some trying experiences during the wedding and holidays.   I know this is easier said than done, but once I realised this about my aunt, things got a lot easier for me.  I also stopped communicating with her unless I had to.  lol  Blocking emails, getting call display, etc. saved my sanity.  🙂

I really hope that you have a great rest of the day!  Don’t let her ruin your birthday.  

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